Stress, the cause & the solution
Understanding stress, the cause & the solution is here right under your nose. It’s an inside job!
The main cause of stress and tension can be found in recognising what drives it. By locating the real problem we can take fear out of the drivers seat and replace it with faith. Once faith is recovered, you will recognise it as your natural ability to trust our self. It doesn’t just belong to religion, it belongs to everyone as a real sense of self and belonging. By recovering Faith at the onset of stress and tension, we will prevent chronic anxiety and other fear driven illnesses.
Stress becomes a way of life
Stress and tension have become a way of Life. It’s like an addiction to many people. They don’t feel at home without it. I could handle the tension from Monday to Friday, but I didn’t know how to handle it on the weekends. I would often spend my Saturday morning with a migraine! Why was that?
The problem is never the real problem
What is it that makes us so tense and stressed in our mind -body system? Is it our way of protecting our self? Do we try to protect ourselves from being hurt? What hurts the most? Failing, being exposed, being robbed, being abused, being fired, having to make dead lines, having to live up to expectations, not being good enough, being rejected, what people think? The list goes on.
Stop the cycle of stress
The cycle of stress & tension stops when we are willing to address those underlying emotional beliefs that drive them. This means the simple solution is to change the driver. As we armour our self against such pain, we keep all the beliefs and emotions trapped inside. As we hold on, and on tightly, the tension increases. The energy it takes to keep all that underlying, or suppressed energy submerged causes the stress and tension to rise. It’s like holding a big plastic ball below the surface of the water. Eventually, as our energy becomes low, the ball will pop up, often smacking us very hard under the chin. This is our clue that something needs to change.
The Impostor Syndrome
My recent research led me to finding a condition called the ‘Impostor syndrome’. It is considered to be a psychological condition. A pattern in which a person doubts their achievements and has a constant fear of being exposed as a “fraud”. t was give it’s name by clinical psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in the 1970’s. There is a great deal of information relating to this disorder.
The ‘Not good enough syndrome’, as I named it, was something I suffered with for years, and it can still creep up on me if I am not awake and aware. Many of my clients and colleagues, I worked with suffered with this same condition.
Enough is Enough
Like me, these people could never see how good they were, and how much they had achieved. It was never enough. I remember winning a silver medal in the Australian senior badminton titles. I felt that the silver wasn’t good enough and that I didn’t deserve to be rewarded, so I threw the medal in the rubbish bin. The pressure many of us put upon our selves to do more, to achieve more, to prove we are good enough, is soul destroying. We even come up with negative excuses as to why we did well – ‘I was lucky, or the competition was poor, etc. This pressure leads us up the fearful path to chronic anxiety, fatigue and disease. The fear of being found, out and being seen as a ‘fraud’ only adds to the tension and stress. I believe that not good enough stuff is what drives many other stress or fear driven illnesses. It can be the death of us.
Softening your heart
Keeping our guard up all of the time in an attempt to defend our self from the possible emotional upheaval, leaves us very tense and stressed. The so-called good, bad and the ugly emotions become blocked. It’s like blocking or constricting the arteries. As we hold on tightly, we harden, making it harder for us to attain that which we truly desire. The real desires, which are driven by love can only be enjoyed through a softened heart.
Let your defences down
Letting go of your defences means allowing your self to be vulnerable. Being vulnerable IS the way to success in all its glory Only when you are willing to confront all that pent-up energy can you let it be in motion. As you let go, and let those blocked emotions be in motion something like a detox takes place. You may not feel good during the process. It can be tough on your ind and body. However, whencomplete, the softening happens, the channels open again and a new life begins to flow.
Letting go of the impostor & recovering your true self
As you let go you don’t lose anything. You allow the love you were missing out on to overcome you and become you. When the real impostor is exposed as fear and doubt, it is quickly disposed of. As all that stress subsides the love continues to flow, grow and overflow, leaving behind anything which is not of its self. This is freedom This is who you really are, the real deal. https://mariebrunger.com/does-forgiveness-stop-the-cycle-of-guilt-if-we-let-it/
Love attracts love
With love, comes joy, pleasure, Faith, prosperity, compassion, passion, kindness, understanding, acceptance, honesty and other virtues become an expression of life. This is ‘raw’ love, and real life working its way out as one. It has nothing to do with anything or anyone else. It’s an inside job, exposing more of who you are. Now, you attract to you that which you are alike.
This powerful passage that is often attributed to Nelson Mandela. It actually originated from the book A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson (1992). A wonderful book which I highly recommend. I wonder how many of us really suffer with this contradicting syndrome.
A Return to Love
‘Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a Child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that others people won’t fee insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others’
Meaning and purpose
What you do with this love and life, or this life of love is entirely up to you. With a new sense of self belief, you will better see those things you have already achieved and be able to pat your self on the back. You will now see those things which before seemed impossible, become possible. It is possible that your journey, direction and destination will change dramatically. Why? When you are guided by this higher and lighter energy, life will take on a brand new meaning and purpose.
Stress, the cause & the solution is here now …
The question is, will you let go long enough for that tension to ease and for a new and easier way to be shown?