Does Forgiveness Stop the Cycle of Guilt
Does forgiveness stop to the cycle of guilt? According to the bible, all of our guilt was washed away by the blood of Christ, over 2000 years ago, when Jesus died on the cross. The question is do we believe that? And do we believe that all of our sins are already forgiven? Isn’t this the freedom we are looking for, today? And, what if it really is already done? Why are we still asking?
Forgiving the unforgivable
Many of us are still learning the art of Forgiveness. It took me a long time to ask and even longer to accept complete forgiveness for all those things I shouldn’t have done, should have done and of course the things I accused myself of doing. At some stage in my life I decided that I wasn’t worthy of complete forgiveness. I felt that some of my wrong-doings were unforgivable. For far too long, I sat in the messy quagmire of guilt, self pity, shame and blame? Urgh!
True or False?
Often there is no crime at at all. It’s just a feeling of guilt based on the judgments we make about our self, or based on actions we took, or didn’t take. I judged myself often and very unfairly. Some of the things I told myself were that I was lazy, I failed, I let myself down, I let others down, I hurt someone, I wasn’t good enough, I must have done something wrong or my life would be different. And the list goes on. These weren’t true but as these stories turned into beliefs they became true for me. And as you know once those judgments or beliefs take root, they have a habit of running or ruining our lives.
Guilty or not guilty, that is the question!
We can hold onto the mistake or crime against our self or another long after the act has been done and dusted. These beliefs insist and persist in reminding us we are not good enough, Godly enough, deserving enough, worthy enough, loving enough (and the list goes on) to be forgiven or to be happy, or, God forbid be loved. As I was unfair to myself I was unfair to others. When I replaced guilt with the attitude of forgiveness, I became kind to myself and to others.
‘Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude’ – Martin Luther King‘ : https://www.huffpost.com/entry/meaning-
If only we all knew this in the beginning? Without changing the way we think and believe, we will continue to screw up, continue to crucify our selves and others through our guilty thoughts and feelings, and the repetition of guilty acts. As we hang on, and on and on, to the shame, blame guilt and unforgivable feelings we create a dam around our heart and separate our self from the loving natural healing nature of Faith. Developing forgiveness as a constant attitude, along with Faith right from the beginning must surely prevent many of the wrong-doings we impose upon our self and each other.
Escaping the prison of your mind-set
A person goes to prison for a crime they committed, and then he or she is set free again when they have done their time. However, unless they have been supported to resolve and dissolve the guilt, they will remain in the prison of their guilty and shameful mind, until ….
This unhealthy mind-set sends us going around in circles, running the same pattern and repeating the same guilt driven crimes and addictive behaviours, over and over again. Without the intervention of forgiveness, we continue to keep guilt alive and us dying.
‘As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew If I didn’t leave my bitterness behind, I’d still be in prison’ – Nelson Mandela: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/meaning-forgiveness_b_2393524
Unforgiveness and disease
Holding tightly to those unhealthy, guilty, not good enough, unforgivable beliefs creates extensive tension, in our mind body system? Think about the illnesses and diseases which stem from all that stress? How does depression and anxiety and other fear driven illnesses fit in to this? So, whether the crime is against our self or another, or whether the guilt is real or stems from a false belief, they need our loving attention in order to heal. https://mariebrunger.com/disabling-anxiety-depression/
Shame hardens the heart
There is nothing that can not be forgiven? It’s as simple as being open to receiving complete forgiveness to complete the letting go process and to regain wholeness. This means letting go of everything, real or perceived for they are equally powerful in our minds. We can’t keep sweeping things under the mat. The longer we hold onto those beliefs, and the more we add to the pile, the thicker and harder that dam around our heart becomes.
As you believe, so it is
Many people, will think, as I did that they have to do something to deserve God’s love. And, in my mind God was always so high and mighty that no matter how hard I tried to appease and please God, I never felt Good or Godly enough. As I believed, so it was. In my mind, I could just not measure up, and God’s love was always out of my reach. This is the real burden we carry, until we are ready to cast it off, for good.
What do you believe about God?
Over time, we will suffer the consequences of those unhealthy blockages somewhere in our mind body system, and in our life. I believe, when we are willing to shift our perception of God, we will see none of this is God’s doing. We can stop blaming God. We can give up on the idea that God or the Universe is testing us, judging us, or making us feel guilty. We do that very well our self. It isn’t God who turns away ashamed of us. It’s we who become too ashamed to look in the mirror to face our Good or Godly Self. In truth, our guilt keeps us at arms length with the love of God which is the divine nature of our self. Guilt, deprives us of that Oneness. I have no doubt in my mind and heart today, that the love of God is always present within, regardless of what name we use. At times we may not feel or be aware of that Presence.
Healing the hurts
I discovered only recently that I was harbouring blame and unforgiveness toward some people from an event nearly 20 years ago. Not only did I need to forgive those people, I also had to accept forgiveness for myself for hanging onto that poison for so long. It certainly wasn’t harming them, but the beliefs I held onto all that time were harming me.
“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different. It’s letting go of how you wanted life to be and accepting the past for what it was’ – Oprah Winfrey
How true this was for me! I held on to the idea that I had failed, because my life didn’t look as I wanted it to look. How many times I looked back through the eyes of guilt and wished it could have been different?
So what does it take to break that cycle of guilt?
What does it take to cast aside that burden? We can’t run away from it because the problem is within us; where ever we go, there we are. When enough is enough, we stop and turn within.
In the movie The Light between two Oceans, a woman’s husband had led a very hard and painful life. His wife asked him how he managed to remain positive and happy after all that had been done to him and all that had happened. His answer was something like this: “Forgiveness, Why? – because it’s easier.” You only have to forgive once and it is done. On the other hand, to keep unforgiveness, resentment or hatred alive we have to remember and think about the bad things every day over and over again. That is hard work. https://ezinearticles.com/?My-Willingness-To-Do-Whatever-It-Takes-Released-Me-From-The-Prison-Of-My-Mind&id=9576196
There is no right or wrong way
Remember, that there is no right or wrong way to raise your attitude from guilt to forgiveness. Whether you are religious or not, you can begin by simply finding a quiet spot and make the call: ‘Ask‘, who ever, or what-ever, represents your greatest inner-love and protection. You can say something like this: “I am right now ready and willing to surrender all this guilt and shame and shift my attitude into a place of absolute forgiveness. Thank you for showing me the way”. Now, open your mind and heart and you will be guided to the right group, person, book, course or therapist. Or, you may not have to go anywhere, for your personal faith within may well be the miracle that will handle the details.
Giving Thanks through prayer
My understanding is that prayer is not so much about asking or pleading; it’s about giving thanks for what you are seeking and believing that which you need, has been given. It is sometimes more difficult to ask, and accept forgiveness from within our self than it is from another. You surrender your fears and guilt, in exchange for complete forgiveness. As you confront God, which is the heart and soul of your Self, and offer up these ‘hurts’ the process of softening that dam begins. As we remember to say thank you, in faith, it is done.
Love and forgiveness softens the heart
As the flood gates open, you may find an instant outpouring, or you might find the flow trickles back into our Being. You may find a sense of relief, or peace overcome you, and your heart softens. Now, your job is to simply promise to keep those heavenly gates open with a will never to let them close again, and you will find the real love of God present, here, there and where forever you are – always in all ways.
Seeing God in a new Light
Now, doesn’t it make more sense that it’s our interpretation of God, and the imperfections we see within our self, and others, that keep guilt alive and us dying to be free? Our false ideas of God keeps us from feeling Good about our self and from owning the abundant Life that is rightfully ours.
Transforming Imperfection into I’m Perfection
What if the only thing we are guilty is forgetting the perfection within us all. As you look through the eyes of unconditional love, you will see your self as you were created, way beyond the imperfections of the flesh. You will be overcome by the pure and perfect image of Good or Godliness, in the name I AM which transforms Imperfection into I’m Perfection.
Restoring Humanity through the art of Forgiveness
Our role as Human Beings is to see our self and others through the eyes of Good. Can you imagine how relationships present, past, and future can be so different and empowered through the simple and constant attitude of forgiveness? As we shift into the higher energy of forgiveness, we become kinder to our self and others. Now, isn’t this the simplest way of restoring and maintaining humanity?
Does Forgiveness stop the cycle of guilt – it’s your choice!
Are you ready? – I AM
Isn’t it time to let go, and let forgiveness and real love overcome and become your constant attitude? Is this is not the miracle we are looking for? Are you finally ready to accept this gift of forgiveness, and the guilt free Life that was offered to us all, over 2000 years ago?
Thank you I AM all forgiving and forgiving all