Understanding stress, the cause & the solution is here right under your nose. It’s an inside job!
The main cause of stress and tension can be found in recognising what drives it. By locating the real problem we can take fear out of the drivers seat and replace it with faith. Once faith is recovered, you will recognise it as your natural ability to trust our self. It doesn’t just belong to religion, it belongs to everyone as a real sense of self and belonging. By recovering Faith at the onset of stress and tension, we will prevent chronic anxiety and other fear driven illnesses.
Stress and tension have become a way of Life. It’s like an addiction to many people. They don’t feel at home without it. I could handle the tension from Monday to Friday, but I didn’t know how to handle it on the weekends. I would often spend my Saturday morning with a migraine! Why was that?
What is it that makes us so tense and stressed in our mind -body system? Is it our way of protecting our self? Do we try to protect ourselves from being hurt? What hurts the most? Failing, being exposed, being robbed, being abused, being fired, having to make dead lines, having to live up to expectations, not being good enough, being rejected, what people think? The list goes on.
The cycle of stress & tension stops when we are willing to address those underlying emotional beliefs that drive them. This means the simple solution is to change the driver. As we armour our self against such pain, we keep all the beliefs and emotions trapped inside. As we hold on, and on tightly, the tension increases. The energy it takes to keep all that underlying, or suppressed energy submerged causes the stress and tension to rise. It’s like holding a big plastic ball below the surface of the water. Eventually, as our energy becomes low, the ball will pop up, often smacking us very hard under the chin. This is our clue that something needs to change.
My recent research led me to finding a condition called the ‘Impostor syndrome’. It is considered to be a psychological condition. A pattern in which a person doubts their achievements and has a constant fear of being exposed as a “fraud”. t was give it’s name by clinical psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in the 1970’s. There is a great deal of information relating to this disorder.
The ‘Not good enough syndrome’, as I named it, was something I suffered with for years, and it can still creep up on me if I am not awake and aware. Many of my clients and colleagues, I worked with suffered with this same condition.
Like me, these people could never see how good they were, and how much they had achieved. It was never enough. I remember winning a silver medal in the Australian senior badminton titles. I felt that the silver wasn’t good enough and that I didn’t deserve to be rewarded, so I threw the medal in the rubbish bin. The pressure many of us put upon our selves to do more, to achieve more, to prove we are good enough, is soul destroying. We even come up with negative excuses as to why we did well – ‘I was lucky, or the competition was poor, etc. This pressure leads us up the fearful path to chronic anxiety, fatigue and disease. The fear of being found, out and being seen as a ‘fraud’ only adds to the tension and stress. I believe that not good enough stuff is what drives many other stress or fear driven illnesses. It can be the death of us.
Keeping our guard up all of the time in an attempt to defend our self from the possible emotional upheaval, leaves us very tense and stressed. The so-called good, bad and the ugly emotions become blocked. It’s like blocking or constricting the arteries. As we hold on tightly, we harden, making it harder for us to attain that which we truly desire. The real desires, which are driven by love can only be enjoyed through a softened heart.
Letting go of your defences means allowing your self to be vulnerable. Being vulnerable IS the way to success in all its glory Only when you are willing to confront all that pent-up energy can you let it be in motion. As you let go, and let those blocked emotions be in motion something like a detox takes place. You may not feel good during the process. It can be tough on your ind and body. However, whencomplete, the softening happens, the channels open again and a new life begins to flow.
As you let go you don’t lose anything. You allow the love you were missing out on to overcome you and become you. When the real impostor is exposed as fear and doubt, it is quickly disposed of. As all that stress subsides the love continues to flow, grow and overflow, leaving behind anything which is not of its self. This is freedom This is who you really are, the real deal. https://mariebrunger.com/does-forgiveness-stop-the-cycle-of-guilt-if-we-let-it/
With love, comes joy, pleasure, Faith, prosperity, compassion, passion, kindness, understanding, acceptance, honesty and other virtues become an expression of life. This is ‘raw’ love, and real life working its way out as one. It has nothing to do with anything or anyone else. It’s an inside job, exposing more of who you are. Now, you attract to you that which you are alike.
This powerful passage that is often attributed to Nelson Mandela. It actually originated from the book A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson (1992). A wonderful book which I highly recommend. I wonder how many of us really suffer with this contradicting syndrome.
‘Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a Child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that others people won’t fee insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others’
What you do with this love and life, or this life of love is entirely up to you. With a new sense of self belief, you will better see those things you have already achieved and be able to pat your self on the back. You will now see those things which before seemed impossible, become possible. It is possible that your journey, direction and destination will change dramatically. Why? When you are guided by this higher and lighter energy, life will take on a brand new meaning and purpose.
The question is, will you let go long enough for that tension to ease and for a new and easier way to be shown?
When it comes to leading the way, Greta Thunberg proves age is no barrier It was so refreshing to see a young woman stamping her authority on the need for climate change. She is as great example of what is possible when we listen and act.
We always knew that change wouldn’t come from our governments, but from everyday people with a passion and the courage to stand against the government. I don’t think we ever thought our kids would make such an impact as they are today.
Our young men and women are looking for equality, and it’s time for us to give it them. It’s time to stop telling them what to do. Let’s stop, and listen to what they are trying to tell us. We adults need to stop projecting our fears and our hand-me-downs beliefs and values onto our kids and allow them to think for themselves. We need to put our trust and faith in them to show us another way.
I see the problems our children present today offer a loud message of time for change. Instead of wanting to fix them or us wanting them to change, I think we adults need to shift our perception and see them and our world differently. We need help them to nurture and develop those natural seeds that make up their unique self and to support them to express that which they believe in.
I am confident that our youth hold the solution to recovering the natural healthy resources to overcome a depressed and anxious internal environment which is crippling families around the world, as well as overcoming the depletion of natural resources which is crippling our external environment.
Our youth are our teachers, if we let them. As we are willing, we become a student to a new wave of proactive leaders who are willing to show us the way to make the necessary changes in our own life, which will have a direct and positive affect on others and our external environment. https://ezinearticles.com/?I-Learned-That-Our-Children-Are-Our-Best-Teachers-If-We-Are-Only-Willing-to-Become-Their-Students&id=9464759
I believe our kids are our real heroes, assigned to inspire us all to realign with man’s kindness again. Surely as we treat our selves, others and our environment in a healthy way, we will restore humanity.
No regrets, ever. This is my promise to myself.
How long have you been living with regrets? They are only robbing you of a peaceful present and a better future. Therefore, it’s time to let them go.
It took a long time for me to see that I was sitting in a quagmire of regret. This state of mind was interfering with manifesting my future.
Every regret is a judgement. A wish that something could have been different. Having regrets means we are holding grief, guilt, disappointment and other emotions which keep us trapped. Regret kills the life we could be living now. I can see clearly now, that wishing things could have been different only held fast the pain of what was and what I thought might have been. I heard myself often starting a sentence with I wish I hadn’t …. or I wish I had ..…
Even though I knew I couldn’t do anything about my past, those regrets, mistakes and judgements played on my mind. In the end I had to put a stop to it. I looked back one last time and acknowledged and expressed how I felt about those unfulfilled wishes. Finally, I accepted fully and without judgement that I couldn’t do anything about it. What was, was, what is, is. and what will be is up to me. When I let go of those past unfulfilled wishes, I could fully embrace the wishes or intentions already in place for my future. Without those old blockages, those intentions were set in motion, able to be fulfilled in my present reality. And they have, and they are. And now, all these years later, those old regrets have regressed and have become like old worn out pages from my book of life.
I came to accept that nothing could have been any different because of what I then knew, and the programming I was running. It is only in growing in mind, body and spirit that I recovered and developed those ‘tools’ I needed. Looking back, I can now accept I didn’t have those tools available to me in that given time. What I mean by this, is that they may have been in my ‘tool box’, but the tool box was unconsciously locked. At that particular time they were out of sight and out of mind. It’s easy to look back in hind sight and say I could have or I should have. In truth, I couldn’t have done anything different. Those all important tools which make up the powerful foundations of a good or godly life, were no where to be found.
I can see clearly now, that some of those old decisions I wished I hadn’t made, led me to achieving the things I was looking for, but in a much different way. NO REGRETS, EVER.
That’s why now, every day I wipe clean the slate. Or I bathe my mind in the Godly juices of Divine love. This means that each day begins anew, afresh in the present. With this presence of mind the future dreams and goals are presented in the here and now as my reality with … No regrets, ever.
A best selling book, The top five Regrets of the dying, written by Bronnie Ware https://bronnieware.com › blog › regrets-of-the-dying is an important reminder for us all.
This is why I am so passionate about reaching our kids at an early age. I am determined for them to access and develop those natural and spiritual foundations and use them as the tools for life, leaving no room for regrets.
If we don’t reach our kids this way we will continue to see them develop bad habits of fear and be driven by negative fearful programs. We owe it to our kids to show them, the ‘power’ they already have within which allows them to be and to do all they choose. Our job is to help our kids trust in who they are , and who they are is enough. If they don’t come from this place of self trust or faith in who they are, they will drive themselves to do more to have more in an attempt to Be more. It doesn’t work.
When we tap inside we recover the foundations of who we are. We incorporate Divine Love, Faith, Trust, compassion, passion, confidence, knowledge, Inspiration, peace, integrity, spiritual intelligence, balance, respect, kindness and much more.
It doesn’t matter what we call this. Often it’s the name we try to give it that separates us from all we are which is our Good or Godly Self. This is why many Spiritual teachers past and present, refer to it as Oneness. Because when we accept this natural essence as our powerful loving self we have the foundations in place for a fulfilled life.
I am convinced we need to incorporate the uncovering or recovering of a good sense of self and self belief, as an integral part of our school curriculum. Once our kids have a good sense of self, challenges in life can be met with a good attitude, and things that once seemed impossible, become possible https://mariebrunger.com/greta-thunberg-proves-age-is-no-barrier-when-it-comes-to-leadership-and-change/ https://mariebrunger.com/disabling-anxiety-depression/
We hear how depression and anxiety are constantly disabling our families. Now, how about we look at disabling anxiety and depression, and be able to live the life we truly want.
So, what brings about depression and anxiety? Are these illnesses the real illness, or are they the symptoms of something missing in our life? Think about it. What makes us so terrified to leave our home, or for some, terrified to stay at home, alone with themselves? It doesn’t make sense. It’s not logical.
Isn’t it time we stopped looking for a logical answer and look deeper to the root? How do we take back our power, and disable anxiety and depression? Now we know fear is present we can look to see what’s missing, or what we are denying.
I know what it’s like to be afraid to be who I am, thinking that who I am is not good or Godly enough. I understand what it’s like to compete, to want to be the best, so I could feel good enough. I get what it’s like to feel a gaping hole inside, and trying to fill it with something from the outside world, only to find it quickly becoming empty again. I’ve been on the emotional swings and round- about, as I tried to figure out who I am. I know what it’s like to have untapped potential, trapped inside. I can relate to what it’s like to have something to say, yet unable to speak up for fear of failing, what people might think, and being rejected. And dare I say, even being persecuted.
I’m not alone with these fears. Many people live in fear on a day to day, moment by moment basis. This fear keeps us separated from who we are and from the life we really want. It becomes a lonely way of life, doesn’t it?
25 years ago I was sick and doctors told me there was no known cure. And, today they are saying the same thing. As it turned out this became my turning point as I made a decision to heal my life (not the illness) and I was willing to do what ever it took. I had no idea what that would involve or what would evolve from such a commitment.
When I shifted my perception I was able to see that this so-called sickness contained the real problem and, more importantly the real solution I was looking for in life. I found the depressed and anxious belliefs which were driving my life, and driving me nuts. And they were present long before chronic fatigue and pain set in.
By shifting my focus from what I perceived to be the probem, I was able to see what was missing. Raising faith and lowering fear became the solution and my holistic healing. Faith became the foundations of my life and my work. I didn’t realise at the time this was also the answer to ‘I’m going to find myself’, a call I put out into the Universe, a few years before.
Likewise, I don’t think we need to address the symptoms of dpression or anxiety so much as addressing the ‘beliefs’. Why? Because as soon as we get a diagnosis, and give it a label, we introduce a new problem. The meaning we give depression and anxiety will trigger the judgement and the beliefs we hold about them. This is a crucial time. As we allow those beliefs to come into the light, we are presented with an opportunity to heal much more than the symptoms. By shifting our perception we will begin to see this so-called problem as the solution to a much bigger one.
This means addressing those all-important beliefs and nipping them in the bud right before the roots take over, and before the cyce of fear is set in motion. Once that fear is allowed to get out of control and take over we become afraid of fear. We get anxious about getting anxious, and depressed about getting depressed. By nipping those beliefs in the bud we can prevent the ongoing cycle of fear.
At the heart of all of us is the natural, inbuilt fight or flight mechanism, which is designed to let us know when we are in danger so we can act – flee or stand and fight. However we lose that real and natural instinct, when we are over-loaded with a false sense of danger, which drives anxiety, and we react in what seems like crazy ways to the average person.
Most of our impressions stem from our past and we project them into the future. This means we are constantly stepping into history and playing it all over again. So, what’s been impressed upon your mind and what are you projecting into the world you step into, fear or love and faith?
When we declare ENOUGH, we choose again. Did you know many people couldn’t go into the ocean as a reaction to watching Jaws? An untrue story which impacted people to the point that they decided it could be true. We receive millions of conscious and subliminal messages throughout our life through the media, family, friends, our community, religion, school, work, life’s experiences along with beliefs passed down for many generations. They don’t even belong to us yet, they still have a huge impact on our lives. These memories, stories and beliefs either leave a good impression on our minds or a bad impression. They either help us to remember love or fear, and whether we like it or not, we get to live out our life, driven by those impressions. https://mariebrunger.com/does-forgiveness-stop-the-cycle-of-guilt-if-we-let-it/
Think about all the security measures and insurances we invest in to ‘guarantee’ our safety, the safety of our kids, family, homes, car, our job, our money, investments, our bankcards, our health and the list goes on. And yet, we still see more people dying, being abused, illnesses, disease, homes being violated, car accidents, family break-downs, job losses, collapses of business, financial institutions and governments. And the list goes on and on.
Now think about the shoulds and shouldn’ts put upon us, which we take on board, and then we put upon our selves. We desperately try to live by these, in order to be a good girl or a good boy, only to end up feeling that we don’t measure up. The ‘not enough’ and ‘not good enough’ stories have turned into a no good Global message.
How many times have you asked yourself, quietly or out loud What’s wrong with me? Have other people ever said to you, What’s wrong with you?, after you have failed to do something or live up to their expectations? How often have you uttered to your self What did I do wrong, or where did I go wrong? The source of these questions come from the beliefs you hold about your self, There must be something wrong with me, or I must have done something wrong. The question is how long have these been running your life?
With all this fear running our lives how can we possibly live safely in the present regardless of what safety mechanisms we have around us. As we take on board that false sense of fear, we lose touch with that real intrinsic part of us, that knows when we are safe, and will let us know when we are not safe. Real security doesn’t come from the outside world it comes from the inside world, by way of the Spiritual product of Faith. When we take Faith out of religion we can see real faith as the key ingredient which makes up the foundations of our real and natural sense of self. It’s our highest sense of knowing, self trust and self belief. When we lose faith, we stand to lose everything. When are at one with faith and all it stands for we have everything we need to make rightful decisions for our self.
What if Faith is the missing link to the prevention and the intervention for anxiety and depression, and for other fear driven illnesses? Can you see Faith is your inner road map? Are you ready to allow it to guide you and direct you safely on your journey in life. When you get lost, you can look within and let the power of faith or give faith the power to ease you back on the track of wellness. Finally you can regain that trust which you lost a long time ago. Isn’t it time to make faith your first point of call, instead of your last? https://ezinearticles.com/?A-Ride-Through-Depression-to-Expression&id=9427987
Choosing Faith as your Good and Godly director allows you to find the confidence to step into the lime light and play your Self in this movie called Life. Sure, you will still encounter those road bumps, which will slow you down. In time, as you look in the rear vision mirror, you will find those old impressions and depressions becoming but a shadow in your old life. You will always go through the highs and lows. HOwever, as you continue to give-in to Faith you will never, never give upon your road to Victory.
Is it a wonder that my passion is to reach our children at an early age. I’m not interested in teaching any form or religion. My interest and passion is to inspire every individual, to look inside to find their personal Faith. This can be God, or what ever name one chooses to give it. It can be religious or non religious. The most important message I can give is this: Build that loving relationship with your self, independent of what others may think, and in a way that is right for you.
Can you imagine our kids growing up with a good sense of self and self-belief? Do you think that most of the illnesses we see today would exist? Would there be any depression and anxiety? Isn’t it highly possible that we would see the expression of love, joy, harmony and all it represents?
Let’s win this war, not through fighting, but disabling anxiety and depression through loving our self more.
Recently, someone asked me what inspired me to success. Before I could answer that question, I had to ask myself what is success. As it turned out, the exercise of redefining success changed my life.
Let me explain. Back in the early 90’s I had, what I thought was success. People looking at my life, my marriage, home, business, personal belongings and life style, certainly thought that we were successful, and happy. However, beyond the mask, I wore a deep sense of insecurity. I was constantly worried about loosing it all. Much later, I could see how my sense of identity, security and success was wrapped up in what one could see and what I was seen to be doing. https://mariebrunger.com/remembering-who-i-am-in-god-is-real/
Needless to say I lost it all, my marriage, my home, the money and everything I thought related to who I was. I didn’t realise it at the time, but it turned out to be an opportunity for me to rediscover my real identity, and to find a real security from the inside-out. I began a new journey of discovering what was real, and what was false. I had many masks to peel off, to find the answers to the question, Who am I?
Unfortunately, old habits and deep beliefs have a habit of returning. Before long I was looking to find ways to prove that I wasn’t a failure. I wanted to show those people how successful I could be. I’ll show them, just watch me, I thought.
To cut a long story short, when I turned 65 I still had nothing visible to show for my hard work. Many of my dreams were still unfulfilled, and I had failed to make an ongoing substantial income through my business. People looking at my life surely would not see me as successful. As it turned out these were only my beliefs being projected outward, onto those people and seeing them reflected back again. They were clues into how I was thinking about my self. Until that realisation, I grieved my failings and I grieved the life I wanted but didn’t reach.
Finally, the blind fold came off ,and I could see all the successes over a long period of time were right there under my nose. I even had the proof, by way of words of gratitude sent to me. Did I not see these before? I was so busy looking for what I thought was success, and what was missing, that I missed what was already here? There wasn’t much out there to show for life, but there is a lot inside me.
When I finally came to terms with my new-found way of seeing success, the grief healed and a new level of self-appreciation took place. Even though things around me didn’t change for a little while, my perception did. I can better see how redefining success changed my life and brings me more peace, and less stress.
I came to see that my heart’s desires, and my ego’s desires are very different. My hearts’ desires come from my natural spirit self and are based on an inner sense of freedom. My egos desires derived from believing I would only be okay if I could see signs of success in my world. Making money would be the proof that I was good enough, and worthy enough in the eyes of other people. And in my mind, this was freedom.
As I looked back to all those years ago, I remembered I had only two great desires. To Heal my life and help others to help themselves to do the same, through a process of raising faith and lowering fear.
Today, looking through the eyes of success, instead of failure, I can see how far I have come. My Faith has definitely raised to a whole new level. I have achieved my hearts desires, in many ways. Over a long period of time, I have helped many people to heal their lives, who in turn have helped their families in the same way. Their success is my success.
Again, I am reminded of Mother Teresa’s message:
Today, I accept that I may or may not always see the outcomes of my work and that’s okay. I now have enough faith in knowing that even those little deeds, and kind words carry the power to make a huge difference, and I love it.
The great news is that, other people may or may not see my success, and that’s okay. I know what success feels like from the inside. Finally, I feel happy and secure in whom I am, as a woman and as a human being. And when I let go of religion, I could feel good about who I am in God, and it’s all good enough for me.
Below are 2 links for you to have a look at and may be will help you to determine what success is FOR YOU https://www.under30ceo.com › 62-business-leaders-answer-what-does-succ… https://daringtolivefully.com/what-does-success-mean .
Home is a simple little unit with huge verandas, only 300 metres from the beach. This is a dream come true. Is this success? You bet it is. My place, here by the ocean has brought so much contentment and happiness, joy and peace. I walk on the beach, sit on the dunes with a coffee in hand. Writing, contemplating, praying, meditating, relaxing, reflecting, and receiving messages, and amazing insights are all a precious part of my day. I can spend an hour or many hours there. It is like a piece of heaven to me.
I write as often as I like, and when I feel like it. Body surfing, playing or swimming in the ocean brings such joy. Is this success? Absolutely. Meeting with friends for coffee or for lunch, going to the movies are all a part of what I love to do. I work, rest and play as I choose. Is this success? And wait there’s more ….
The Universe fought hard to give me my heart’s desires, but I fought back because of the conflicting beliefs I held about success and the real joy of Life.
It took me to lose everything to get my thinking straightened out. In doing so, I found my real self and a new life with more leisure and pleasure. And now the more keeps coming. I came to realise that who I am is everything and everything else is like the icing on the cake. I know, when I stand strong in the foundations of who I am, even if icing falls off, I won’t crumble and fall. And I have faith that the icing can simply be replaced.
And now, feeling genuine gratitude for my journey to this point, and grateful for who I am and what I do have in my life. I am excited for no other reason than I know there is more of Life to enjoy. I am free of any and all attachment to my worth or success. This means, that instead of fighting, I am surrendered to giving and receiving, and celebrating with more grace and gratitude.
When you ask questions like Who am I – I mean really, you best be ready for the answers. And they will come, sometimes in ways you wouldn’t think of.
I remember 25 years ago declaring ‘I’m going to find myself‘. This began a spiritual unfolding and a journey of raising faith and lowering fear. It turned out it wasn’t about seeking or finding, but more about remembering who I AM. The answer to your question Who am I – I mean really – takes you way beyond those false beliefs you hold about our self, and allows you to reach inward to remember your unique self, in your own unique way.
Many of us get caught up in the word God. The name, our interpretation and the beliefs we hold about God, keep us at arms length with our real sense of Good, or Godly Self.
We begin real Life as God, being created in the perfect image of our God I AM, which becomes our Godly Given name. If you like, I AM is our heavenly Father’s name given to us all upon creation of man. I AM identifies my real self in God, without boundaries. I AM makes me whole and a part of God, rather than apart from God.
I AM is NOT another God but another name. I AM is of no religion. I AM belongs to every one. We can even look at it as our Universal, Spiritual connection, and a deep sense of belonging.
The most important thing is to remember that: I AM is the highest non-form of communication available to man-kind, and when used, not abused overcomes and becomes the highest from of communication through mans kindness. So let’s use I AM in the kindest way, to raise our self up instead of putting our self down, shall we?
In Sanskrit ‘Hu’, that ‘Hu’ means GOD. It is NOT another God but another name for God, as is I AM. Man, then is the manifestation of God and I AM Marie becomes my Hu-man name. Marie identifies who I am on earth among all other men and women.
The problem comes about when we, man and woman decide to leave Hu out of the equation, and we use or abuse our free will to create a Life, void of Spiritual law and order. We live by man’s law alone, often ending up feeling very lonely, left wanting and waiting for something we just can’t quite figure out, or put our finger on.
Many of us call our selves human, yet we are not exercising the Universal will or law of Hu or God which extends through man’s deepest sense of kindness and love. And we wonder why we are at war with our self and each other. No wonder the world is in a state of disorder and disease.
From early childhood we become influenced by those around us, families, communities, government, schooling, religion, friends, and of course generations of beliefs handed down over and over again. Together, with our personal experiences, comparisons and competition we are led to believe we are more or less than one another.
All too quickly we forget we were all created in the same perfect image of God, and therefore we are one of a kind and equal, with no one above or below. In our forgetfulness we develop a false sense of identity, born of man’s beliefs, and we create a sense of longing, constantly striving to find the perfect life, and to fill the hole we created so we can become whole again.
At an early age we begin to determine who we are based on those influences and what happens to us (or for us). The quality of those influences and beliefs, (true or false) will determine the quality of the life we lead. Many of these beliefs don’t even belong to us but we own them as if they do. Our beliefs are not always a fair representation of who we are. They represent what we do, or what happened to us. We have to de-hypnotise our self in order to separate what happens and what we do nd what we have, from who we are.
Remember, the quality of the words we attach to I AM is reflected in our life.
Often we find our self using I AM to put our self down: I am stupid, I am not good enough, I am ugly, I am too short, too tall, too fat, I am not worthy; I am a failure and the list goes on and on. This is self abuse of the highest kind, as we are using the power of God to put our self down. It’s okay to own how we feel and what we think but we do not state it as if it’s who we are, because it’s not true.
Once you have expressed how you feel, remember to use I AM to reinstate who you are through the eyes of Good. I AM worthy enough, I AM successful enough, I AM intelligent enough, I AM good enough as I am. This is the truth even if you haven’t developed this to the point of being able to resonate with it. Keep affirming, and in time it will drop into your heart and become what you know to be true.
I know many people will say that affirmations or declarations don’t work. Well think about it: We have been telling our self what’s wrong with us for a very long time and it worked, right? Check your self talk, and you will find what makes you tick, and what moves you throughout the day. STOP, and begin to declare what’s right with you on a deeper level, and that will surface and become the real you.
As we go through college, University or work, we add more false identities through the labels and titles we wear, separating us even further from our real identity. Think about it: As we meet a person the first question they ask is What’s your name? I wonder what would happen if we said I AM and left the rest open? Instead we answer I AM Marie. The next question What do you do? will determine how they see you, and they too will create an image or an identity of you based on their beliefs.
A mother, parent, CEO, baker, candle-stick maker, therapist, single, a single Parent (this has become very popular for women in particular), a doctor, a cleaner, an investor, a support worker, nurse, therapist, receptionist, and the list goes on.
How we perform at any of these will determine our success, right? And, of course money, possessions and assets also get wrapped up in how we identify our self, and how others regard us in the world.
Remember, all these labels are not who we are. They identify what we do. There is a big difference. Often, the busier we become, and the more we strive to reach a level of man-made success, we lose touch or we forget who we are. We forget that real success works it’s way from the inside out.
When we lose our real self in our doing we stand to lose everything. We lose the best of our self and we divorce our self from our self. Does this mean we can’t strive for success? No, not at all. We just remember to commit to the inner presence of God or Good as the driver of Life, and us as the co-driver. This will save us time and energy in having to use up our own little will and our power. When we are willing to lose our little self to our higher and mightier self, we stand to gain everything, as ONESELF
I AM Marie, means I take God or God’s love into everything ‘I do.’ This way, who I am is still in tact and the doing becomes an extension of who I am. This means my real self, my real identity remains untouched; is forever present and constant. The only thing that might change is how I express that Goodness. The challenge is to remember. I must admit, many times I still forget.
Only what we do, or what we call our self will change according to our will and our way. We look into our world and we declare this is reality. But how can it be when every one’s reality is different, and our reality is changing constantly – our body, jobs, money, houses, climate etc. One day we can have money and another day it’s gone. And in our times of lack, out of the blue, we can be flooded with gifts. One day we see the sun and another it’s nowhere to be seen! Ah, but we know it’s still there don’t we? Why? Because what is real is forever here.
Unfortunately, it often takes a break-down, or for us to lose what looks like everything, to remember another way. It’s like we have to wipe the slate clean and begin again. We have to peel off the layers of our false identity to get back to the foundations built upon I AM. As we remarry with our real self, we can be assured that when all else fails, we will not crumble. https://mariebrunger.com/how-redefining-success-changed-my-life/
What are the foundations for life? You could very well think of Jesus and the values and virtues by which he lived and died. Compassion, passion, faith, love, acceptance forgiveness, persistence, gentle yet strong, peace, kindness, appreciation, respect, etc. You can make your own list by asking the question ‘What does humanity really stand for? After all isn’t that what Jesus lived and died for?
As we venture into the world with the foundations of I AM firmly in place, do you not think we will make for a better mother, CEO, baker, doctor, nurse, cleaner, support worker etc?
Sometimes we can try too hard to be the best we can be. But in truth if we simply relax, we allow those Good and Godly ripples to flow through and outwardly and we become a natural, kind, unique inspiration, on a moment by moment and day by day basis, being expressed with or without those titles.
With I AM as the foundations we will rise to greater heights of living, loving and achieving and the ripple of our success will reach far and wide. https://ezinearticles.com/?I-AM-Seeing-God,-Love-And-Myself-In-The-One-Light&id=9571759
Are your beliefs empowering or limiting you?
You will find in most of my blogs and conversations, that I keep coming back to our beliefs. At the end of each day we live and work through our man-made beliefs. When we understand this, and we identify those limiting beliefs, we choose again.
I watched a movie recently called The Chaperone. Set in the 1920’s., Louise is a rebellious 15-year-old schoolgirl who dreams of fame and fortune. Her chance arrived when she was chosen to travel from Kansas to New York to study with a leading dance troupe for the summer. She was accompanied by an elder and watchful chaperone, Norma.
Norma married into an upper class family. In those days, women of her status wore those very uncomfortable corsets, which were pulled tight and clipped up at the back. Each time the corset came off Norma breathed a huge sigh of relief.
While Norma was stuck in her ways of living this way of life, Louise looked for more freedom, and was outrageous for that period. Louise challenged Norma when she noticed the deep marks left behind from the tightness of the corset, and from the hooks. An interesting journey began with these two opposites.
When the summer was over, Norma deliberately left the corsets to one side, when packing to return to a life in Kansas, while Louise looks on. Louise went on to become famous, brought about a lot of change and inspired many young women of her day.
Twenty years later, Norma heard of Louise’s surprise return to Kansas. Norma was even more surprised to find Louise was not only financially broke, but looked and sounded like a broken and failed woman. Norma convinced Louise to return to New York to continue to inspire other young people and to seek the change they were looking for. She gave Louise one hundred dollars, and told her to leave the little town in Kansas which she had out-grown and go back to the modern New York because that is where she now belonged. When Norma was leaving the room, Louise asked her if she had ever returned to wearing her corsets again. Norma’s reply was never.
I love this as I see it as a metaphor for Life. Many of you are still wearing old fashioned and outdated beliefs that are far too tight, creating a lot of tension and disharmony. These tightly held beliefs leave no room for something new to come in. Many of these beliefs were passed down for generations, are well past their use by date, and restricting us from living the life we truly want and deserve. Like these woman, there comes a time when enough is enough, and we see we have choices. We can shed those small beliefs, raise our self up, and follow our dreams.
The late Wayne Dyer who was an amazing man wrote many successful books on the power of our beliefs and intentions, including You’ll See It When You Believe It https://www.hayhouse.com › you-ll-see-it-when-you-believe-it- His memory lives on through his work.
Only when we give our self permission to seek a life, that better fits, can the transition out of the old begin. As we are willing, we faithfully begin to focus on those highly regarded dreams and goals. As we do we are better able to let go of a lesser, painful conditioned way of life which no longer serves us. In return we get to breathe easier again, allowing our self to be led to into a new and lighter way of life.
When the offer to go to Antarctica came up, my reaction was NO because it was something I believed was a long way out of my financial budget. And the trip alone to such an amazing place wasn’t even on my radar. On top of this, the decision had to be made immediately, because it was a special deal. They were looking for people to fill this 21 day expedition to set off within 6 weeks. It was impossible!
Within a few hours, I went from a place of NO to YES; from impossible to I’m going. Those old outdated beliefs and fears slipped away long enough for me to make the booking and secure our cabin. Within the next few weeks the way was shown. It was like a miracle! The money fell into my life, and I fell in love with Antarctica. https://ezinearticles.com/?Are-Your-Beliefs-About-Love-And-Money-Creating-The-Richness-Of-Life-You-Really-Deserve?&id=9503950
Are your beliefs empowering or limiting you?
Does forgiveness stop to the cycle of guilt? According to the bible, all of our guilt was washed away by the blood of Christ, over 2000 years ago, when Jesus died on the cross. The question is do we believe that? And do we believe that all of our sins are already forgiven? Isn’t this the freedom we are looking for, today? And, what if it really is already done? Why are we still asking?
Many of us are still learning the art of Forgiveness. It took me a long time to ask and even longer to accept complete forgiveness for all those things I shouldn’t have done, should have done and of course the things I accused myself of doing. At some stage in my life I decided that I wasn’t worthy of complete forgiveness. I felt that some of my wrong-doings were unforgivable. For far too long, I sat in the messy quagmire of guilt, self pity, shame and blame? Urgh!
Often there is no crime at at all. It’s just a feeling of guilt based on the judgments we make about our self, or based on actions we took, or didn’t take. I judged myself often and very unfairly. Some of the things I told myself were that I was lazy, I failed, I let myself down, I let others down, I hurt someone, I wasn’t good enough, I must have done something wrong or my life would be different. And the list goes on. These weren’t true but as these stories turned into beliefs they became true for me. And as you know once those judgments or beliefs take root, they have a habit of running or ruining our lives.
We can hold onto the mistake or crime against our self or another long after the act has been done and dusted. These beliefs insist and persist in reminding us we are not good enough, Godly enough, deserving enough, worthy enough, loving enough (and the list goes on) to be forgiven or to be happy, or, God forbid be loved. As I was unfair to myself I was unfair to others. When I replaced guilt with the attitude of forgiveness, I became kind to myself and to others.
‘Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude’ – Martin Luther King‘ : https://www.huffpost.com/entry/meaning-
If only we all knew this in the beginning? Without changing the way we think and believe, we will continue to screw up, continue to crucify our selves and others through our guilty thoughts and feelings, and the repetition of guilty acts. As we hang on, and on and on, to the shame, blame guilt and unforgivable feelings we create a dam around our heart and separate our self from the loving natural healing nature of Faith. Developing forgiveness as a constant attitude, along with Faith right from the beginning must surely prevent many of the wrong-doings we impose upon our self and each other.
A person goes to prison for a crime they committed, and then he or she is set free again when they have done their time. However, unless they have been supported to resolve and dissolve the guilt, they will remain in the prison of their guilty and shameful mind, until ….
This unhealthy mind-set sends us going around in circles, running the same pattern and repeating the same guilt driven crimes and addictive behaviours, over and over again. Without the intervention of forgiveness, we continue to keep guilt alive and us dying.
‘As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew If I didn’t leave my bitterness behind, I’d still be in prison’ – Nelson Mandela: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/meaning-forgiveness_b_2393524
Holding tightly to those unhealthy, guilty, not good enough, unforgivable beliefs creates extensive tension, in our mind body system? Think about the illnesses and diseases which stem from all that stress? How does depression and anxiety and other fear driven illnesses fit in to this? So, whether the crime is against our self or another, or whether the guilt is real or stems from a false belief, they need our loving attention in order to heal. https://mariebrunger.com/disabling-anxiety-depression/
There is nothing that can not be forgiven? It’s as simple as being open to receiving complete forgiveness to complete the letting go process and to regain wholeness. This means letting go of everything, real or perceived for they are equally powerful in our minds. We can’t keep sweeping things under the mat. The longer we hold onto those beliefs, and the more we add to the pile, the thicker and harder that dam around our heart becomes.
Many people, will think, as I did that they have to do something to deserve God’s love. And, in my mind God was always so high and mighty that no matter how hard I tried to appease and please God, I never felt Good or Godly enough. As I believed, so it was. In my mind, I could just not measure up, and God’s love was always out of my reach. This is the real burden we carry, until we are ready to cast it off, for good.
Over time, we will suffer the consequences of those unhealthy blockages somewhere in our mind body system, and in our life. I believe, when we are willing to shift our perception of God, we will see none of this is God’s doing. We can stop blaming God. We can give up on the idea that God or the Universe is testing us, judging us, or making us feel guilty. We do that very well our self. It isn’t God who turns away ashamed of us. It’s we who become too ashamed to look in the mirror to face our Good or Godly Self. In truth, our guilt keeps us at arms length with the love of God which is the divine nature of our self. Guilt, deprives us of that Oneness. I have no doubt in my mind and heart today, that the love of God is always present within, regardless of what name we use. At times we may not feel or be aware of that Presence.
I discovered only recently that I was harbouring blame and unforgiveness toward some people from an event nearly 20 years ago. Not only did I need to forgive those people, I also had to accept forgiveness for myself for hanging onto that poison for so long. It certainly wasn’t harming them, but the beliefs I held onto all that time were harming me.
“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different. It’s letting go of how you wanted life to be and accepting the past for what it was’ – Oprah Winfrey
How true this was for me! I held on to the idea that I had failed, because my life didn’t look as I wanted it to look. How many times I looked back through the eyes of guilt and wished it could have been different?
What does it take to cast aside that burden? We can’t run away from it because the problem is within us; where ever we go, there we are. When enough is enough, we stop and turn within.
In the movie The Light between two Oceans, a woman’s husband had led a very hard and painful life. His wife asked him how he managed to remain positive and happy after all that had been done to him and all that had happened. His answer was something like this: “Forgiveness, Why? – because it’s easier.” You only have to forgive once and it is done. On the other hand, to keep unforgiveness, resentment or hatred alive we have to remember and think about the bad things every day over and over again. That is hard work. https://ezinearticles.com/?My-Willingness-To-Do-Whatever-It-Takes-Released-Me-From-The-Prison-Of-My-Mind&id=9576196
Remember, that there is no right or wrong way to raise your attitude from guilt to forgiveness. Whether you are religious or not, you can begin by simply finding a quiet spot and make the call: ‘Ask‘, who ever, or what-ever, represents your greatest inner-love and protection. You can say something like this: “I am right now ready and willing to surrender all this guilt and shame and shift my attitude into a place of absolute forgiveness. Thank you for showing me the way”. Now, open your mind and heart and you will be guided to the right group, person, book, course or therapist. Or, you may not have to go anywhere, for your personal faith within may well be the miracle that will handle the details.
My understanding is that prayer is not so much about asking or pleading; it’s about giving thanks for what you are seeking and believing that which you need, has been given. It is sometimes more difficult to ask, and accept forgiveness from within our self than it is from another. You surrender your fears and guilt, in exchange for complete forgiveness. As you confront God, which is the heart and soul of your Self, and offer up these ‘hurts’ the process of softening that dam begins. As we remember to say thank you, in faith, it is done.
As the flood gates open, you may find an instant outpouring, or you might find the flow trickles back into our Being. You may find a sense of relief, or peace overcome you, and your heart softens. Now, your job is to simply promise to keep those heavenly gates open with a will never to let them close again, and you will find the real love of God present, here, there and where forever you are – always in all ways.
Now, doesn’t it make more sense that it’s our interpretation of God, and the imperfections we see within our self, and others, that keep guilt alive and us dying to be free? Our false ideas of God keeps us from feeling Good about our self and from owning the abundant Life that is rightfully ours.
What if the only thing we are guilty is forgetting the perfection within us all. As you look through the eyes of unconditional love, you will see your self as you were created, way beyond the imperfections of the flesh. You will be overcome by the pure and perfect image of Good or Godliness, in the name I AM which transforms Imperfection into I’m Perfection.
Our role as Human Beings is to see our self and others through the eyes of Good. Can you imagine how relationships present, past, and future can be so different and empowered through the simple and constant attitude of forgiveness? As we shift into the higher energy of forgiveness, we become kinder to our self and others. Now, isn’t this the simplest way of restoring and maintaining humanity?
Does Forgiveness stop the cycle of guilt – it’s your choice!
Isn’t it time to let go, and let forgiveness and real love overcome and become your constant attitude? Is this is not the miracle we are looking for? Are you finally ready to accept this gift of forgiveness, and the guilt free Life that was offered to us all, over 2000 years ago?
Are Faith and Belief the same? The short answer is NO.
Many years ago I was away from home and found my self in a difficult financial situation. To make the stress worse, I found a large lump in my breast.
As much as I disliked the idea of going to the doctors I couldn’t come up with an other answer. After an ultra sound the doctors decided to do a simple pin prick to what they said was cyst. it was an easy and painless process they said, and from my prior experience I was confident in what they said. However, as the needle went penetrated the breast I screamed out in horrendous pain. They completed the procedure but it was another couple of days before I could touch my breast again, only to find the lump hadn’t changed. My attitude slumped and although I felt low I used the I AM affirmations to see me through the mental and emotional pain.
Within a couple of days my spirits rose and I was able to take the next step which led me to making an appointment with the specialist/surgeon. Each day I continued to go through a spiritual ritual and opened up the gift of I AM declarations to keep my self-talk and my spirits up. It was also a reminder that I wasn’t alone, and that I was being taken care of, in all ways. I had faith that the lump would be gone by the time my appointment day arrived. Each morning I checked and I was surprised to find the lump still there and not even changed.
The lump was still there on my way out of the house on the morning of my appointment. As I was leaving, I noticed an open newspaper with a message that lit up like a neon sign:
‘Faith and Belief are different. Faith is active and belief is passive’
I didn’t get this logically, but I knew that somehow this message had registered in my heart.
Off I went to the specialist still scratching my head. Less than an hour later the doctor couldn’t find any sign of a lump. At first I thought he must be mad, how could he miss it? When I checked it myself, he was right there was nothing to be felt or found. Following the doctor’s suggestion, I made another appointment for an ultra sound. I wasn’t sure if I really needed it or not but some how I knew the answer would come. The day before the appointment I rang still not sure if I would cancel or confirm the appointment. When the receptionist answered my call I mentioned my name and that I was inquiring about my appointment due tomorrow. She informed me I had missed my appointment as it was yesterday! This time, I answered the call to ‘go home’ and as soon as I said yes, the way was shown and the money I needed showed up. https://ezinearticles.com/?Remember-Faith-Is-Active—Be-Willing-To-Take-That-First-Step&id=9578640 https://www.huffpost.com › entry › faith-and-belief_b_4166117
I look at it this way. Our beliefs are man-made, formed from the outside-in. Some are learned, many are created from experiences through out life and many more passed on through multiple generations. Although they may be true for the person holding them, they are not necessarily true for those who inherit them. In time those beliefs may change according to our personal will and the will of the collective. People can believe in us and we can believe in our self, but these beliefs are still limited and may never lead to action. It takes Faith to see if what we believe in works, right? Regardless of the level of our self-belief we still need to take a step or sometimes a leap of Faith. https://mariebrunger.com/remembering-who-i-am-in-god-is-real/
I love this quote which someone shared a long time ago.
‘Fear knocked on the door and when faith answered there was no one there’
Many people think Faith is tied to a religion (and it can be) however it is not exclusive, it is inclusive. It is Universal, and a product of Spirituality. Yet it is a personal attitude available for everyone seeking to find something more within themselves, and to do something beyond their current circumstances. It allows us to shift beyond the attachments to how others see us and beyond the beliefs others have about us.
Sometimes we need faith to get out of our comfort zone, and at times to let go of the control we think we have on our life (and on the lives of others). Unlike belief, Faith works from the inside out, It is always here, consistent, never changing and actively moving, directing us and protecting us, in a unique way for each and every one of us. It is our natural real higher sense of Self and Self-Belief. Belief can get us to the point of change, of moving forward, or ready to deliver those ideas into the world. This is often where we get stuck. How many great ideas are there still locked away in people’s minds? How many dreams and desires are still locked away in the hearts of people because of the fear of taking that next step?
It took me a long time to realise that Faith isn’t the absence of fear. It’s about feeling and facing the fear and stepping through it. If belief is our word then faith is our works. As we call upon Faith, we are able take that step or take that action which overcomes and dissolves the fear.
Thank you I AM Faith
I feel as if I have walked from Bethlehem to Jerusalem and back again trying to understand Jesus’ purpose in my life. Finally, when I took Christ out of religion, things began to unfold more simply for me.
For a long time, I strove to be as Godly as He, and often left feeling afraid, exhausted and like a failure. I even tried to get rid on him a number of times, thinking that he was a crutch and I relied on him far too much.
Now, accepting I walk a very crooked line without him, I depend on Him being my guiding hand and light, keeping me on the straight and narrow. Today, I feel his spirit alive in me as my invisible guide and mentor, encouraging, protecting, and sometimes gently chastising me. He is a miracle worker in so many ways. I’m living proof of that!
When I fully accepted my short-comings in this physical body and the world I saw, without judgement, I could finally relax, and see more of the Good and the God in myself, others and in Life. I know now, nothing I do, try or strive for can make me more like Jesus. It’s only in trying less and being more that I am more like Him, allowing the words and works of Good to continue to be done in the simplest, natural and perfect way.
In the end the only way I could close the gap with Jesus was to separate myself and Jesus from religion. After 25 years, I finally took Christ out of religion, and I now embrace that which I tried so hard to deny, to understand, and that which I was so scared of, as Being a true reflection of my Good and Sacred Self. https://ezinearticles.com/?My-Search-for-God-Came-to-an-End-When-I-Discovered-the-Power-of-Self-Acceptance&id=9442152
I AM the Way
I felt scared
And I despaired
At the thought of walking in Jesus's shoes
Until I heard the news;
We are not asking you
To walk in his shoes
Only to choose
To let the Holy Son come
To walk in your shoes with you
As one ...
Suddenly it made sense
The relief was immense
No longer afraid
The decision was made
To simply agree
To let it be
I let go
I felt the flow
Of the Christ energy
Move through me
And I knew it was done
Two wills became one
A new life begun
as I AM