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Disabling Anxiety and Depression

We hear how depression and anxiety are constantly disabling our families. Now, how about we look at disabling anxiety and depression, and be able to live the life we truly want.

Taking back our power

So, what brings about depression and anxiety? Are these illnesses the real illness, or are they the symptoms of something missing in our life? Think about it. What makes us so terrified to leave our home, or for some, terrified to stay at home, alone with themselves? It doesn’t make sense. It’s not logical.

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Disabling anxiety and depression means getting to the root of the problem.

Isn’t it time we stopped looking for a logical answer and look deeper to the root? How do we take back our power, and disable anxiety and depression? Now we know fear is present we can look to see what’s missing, or what we are denying.

The roller-coaster ride

I know what it’s like to be afraid to be who I am, thinking that who I am is not good or Godly enough. I understand what it’s like to compete, to want to be the best, so I could feel good enough. I get what it’s like to feel a gaping hole inside, and trying to fill it with something from the outside world, only to find it quickly becoming empty again. I’ve been on the emotional swings and round- about, as I tried to figure out who I am. I know what it’s like to have untapped potential, trapped inside. I can relate to what it’s like to have something to say, yet unable to speak up for fear of failing, what people might think, and being rejected. And dare I say, even being persecuted.

I’m not alone with these fears. Many people live in fear on a day to day, moment by moment basis. This fear keeps us separated from who we are and from the life we really want. It becomes a lonely way of life, doesn’t it?

What If?

What if Faith is the missing link to the prevention and the intervention for anxiety and depression, and for other fear driven illnesses? What if Faith is our inner road map which guides us and directs us safely on our journey in life, and puts us back on the track of wellness when we get lost? Wouldn’t you make faith your first point of call, instead of your last?

Raising Faith became my healing

25 years ago I was sick and doctors told me there was no known cure. And, today they are saying the same thing. As it turned out this became my turning point as I made a decision to heal my life (not the illness) and I was willing to do what ever it took. I had no idea what that would involve or what would evolve from such a commitment. I soon found out that fear was driving my life, and was present long before chronic fatigue and pain set in. Raising faith and lowering fear became my healing. Faith became the foundations of my life and my work. I didn’t realise at the time this was also the answer to ‘I’m going to find myself’, a call I put out into the Universe, a few years before.

Fight or Flight

At the heart of all of us is the natural, inbuilt fight or flight mechanism, which is designed to let us know when we are in danger so we can act – flee or stand and fight. However we lose that real and natural instinct, when we are over-loaded with a false sense of danger, which drives anxiety, and we react in what seems like crazy ways to the average person.

What impresses you most faith or fear?

Most of our impressions stem from our past and we project them into the future. This means we are constantly stepping into history and playing it all over again. So, what’s been impressed upon your mind and what are you projecting into the world you step into, fear or love and faith?

The Stories we tell our self

When we declare ENOUGH, we choose again. Did you know many people couldn’t go into the ocean as a reaction to watching Jaws? An untrue story which impacted people to the point that they decided it could be true. We receive millions of conscious and subliminal messages throughout our life through the media, family, friends, our community, religion, school, work, life’s experiences along with beliefs passed down for many generations. They don’t even belong to us yet, they still have a huge impact on our lives. These memories, stories and beliefs either leave a good impression on our minds or a bad impression. They either help us to remember love or fear, and whether we like it or not, we get to live out our life, driven by those impressions.

Real Security comes from within

Think about all the security measures and insurances we invest in to ‘guarantee’ our safety, the safety of our kids, family, homes, car, our job, our money, investments, our bankcards, our health and the list goes on. And yet, we still see more people dying, being abused, illnesses, disease, homes being violated, car accidents, family break-downs, job losses, collapses of business, financial institutions and governments. And the list goes on and on.

Not Enough Syndrome

Now think about the shoulds and shouldn’ts put upon us, which we take on board, and then we put upon our selves. We desperately try to live by these, in order to be a good girl or a good boy, only to end up feeling that we don’t measure up. The ‘not enough’ and ‘not good enough’ stories have turned into a no good Global message.

What’s wrong with me?

How many times have you asked yourself, quietly or out loud What’s wrong with me? Have other people ever said to you, What’s wrong with you?, after you have failed to do something or live up to their expectations? How often have you uttered to your self What did I do wrong, or where did I go wrong? The source of these questions come from the beliefs you hold about your self, There must be something wrong with me, or I must have done something wrong. The question is how long have these been running your life?

Fear breeds fear, Love breeds love and faith breeds faith.

With all this fear running our lives how can we possibly live safely in the present regardless of what safety mechanisms we have around us. As we take on board that false sense of fear, we lose touch with that real intrinsic part of us, that knows when we are safe, and will let us know when we are not safe. Real security doesn’t come from the outside world it comes from the inside world, by way of the Spiritual product of Faith. Real faith is a key ingredient which makes up the foundations of our real and natural sense of self. When we lose faith, we stand to lose everything.

From Depression to Expression

Choosing Faith as our Good and Godly director allows us to find the confidence to step into the lime light and play our Self in this movie called Life. Sure, we will still encounter those road bumps, which will slow us down. In time, as we look in the rear vision mirror, we will find those old impressions and depression becoming but a shadow in our life. We will always go through the highs and lows, and as we continue to give-in to Faith we will never, never give upon our road to Victory.

Begin NOW

Is it a wonder that my passion is to reach our children at an early age. I’m not interested in teaching any form of religion. My interest and passion is to inspire every individual, to look inside to find their personal Faith. This can be God, or what ever name one chooses to give it. It can be religious or non religious. The most important message I can give is this: Build that loving relationship with your self, independent of what others may think, and in a way that is right for you.

Can you imagine our kids growing up with a good sense of self and self-belief? Do you think that most of the illnesses we see today would exist? Would there be any depression and anxiety or would we see the expression of love, joy, harmony and all it represents?

Disabling anxiety and depression through love

Let’s win this war, not through fighting but disabling anxiety and depression, through loving our self more.

Thank you Marie

How Redefining Success Changed my life

Recently, someone asked me what inspired me to success. Before I could answer that question, I had to ask myself what is success. As it turned out, the exercise of redefining success changed my life.

How it used to be

Let me explain. Back in the early 90’s I had what I thought was success. People looking at my life, my marriage, home, business, personal belongings and life style, certainly thought that we were successful, and happy. However, beyond the mask, I wore a deep sense of insecurity. I was constantly worried about loosing it all. Much later, I could see how my sense of identity, security and success was wrapped up in what one could see and what I was seen to be doing.

Time to find out who I am

Needless to say I lost it all, my marriage, my home, the money and everything I thought related to who I was. I didn’t realise it at the time, but it turned out to be an opportunity for me to discover my real identity, and to find a real security from the inside-out. I began a new journey of discovering what was real, and what was false. I had many masks to peel off to find the answers to the question, Who am I?

Letting go of old beliefs

Unfortunately, old habits and deep beliefs have a habit of returning. Before long I was looking to find ways to prove that I wasn’t a failure. I wanted to show those people how successful I could be. I’ll show them, just watch me, I thought.

To cut a long story short, when I turned 65 I still had nothing to show for my hard work. Many of my dreams were still unfulfilled, and I had failed to make an ongoing substantial income through my business. People looking at my life surely would not see me as successful. (As it turned out these were only my beliefs being projected outward, onto those people and seeing them reflected back again. They were clues into how I was thinking about my self). I grieved my failings and I grieved the life I wanted but didn’t reach.

Seeing through renewed eyes

Finally, the blind fold came off ,and I could see all the successes over a long period of time were right there under my nose. I even had the proof, by way of words of gratitude sent to me. Did I not see these before? I was so busy looking for what I thought was success, and what was missing, that I missed what was already here? There wasn’t much out there to show for life, but there is a lot inside me.

Shifting my perspective

When I finally came to terms with my new-found way of seeing success, the grief healed and a new level of self-appreciation took place. Even though things around me didn’t change for a little while, my perception did. I can better see how redefining success changed my life and brings me more peace, and less stress.

I came to see that my heart’s desires, and my ego’s desires are very different. My hearts’ desires come from my natural spirit self and are based on an inner sense of freedom. My egos desires derived from believing I would only be okay if I could see signs of success in my world. Making money would be the proof that I was good enough, and worthy enough in the eyes of other people. And in my mind, this was freedom.

I delivered the desires of my heart

As I looked back to all those years ago, I remembered I had only two great desires. To Heal my life and help others to help themselves to do the same through a process of raising faith and lowering fear.

Today, looking through the eyes of success, instead of failure, I can see how far I have come. My Faith has definitely raised to a whole new level. I have achieved my hearts desires, in many ways. Over a long period of time, I have helped many people to heal their lives, who in turn have helped their families in the same way. Their success is my success.

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How redefining success change my life

Again, I am reminded of Mother Teresa’s message:

We can do no great things in this world, only little things with great love’

Today, I accept that I may or may not always see the outcomes of my work and that’s okay. I now have enough faith in knowing that even those little deeds, and kind words carry the power to make a huge difference, and I love it.

The great news is that, other people may or may not see my success, and that’s okay. I know what success feels like from the inside. Finally, I feel happy and secure in whom I am, as a woman and as a human being. I feel good about who I am in God, and it’s all good enough for me.

Is this Success?

I rent a simple little unit with huge verandas, only 300 metres from the beach. This is a dream come true. Is this success? You bet it is. My place, here by the ocean has brought so much contentment and happiness, joy and peace. I walk on the beach, sit on the dunes with a coffee in hand. Writing, contemplating, praying, meditating, relaxing, reflecting, and receiving messages, and amazing insights are all a precious part of my day. I can spend an hour or many hours there. It is like a piece of heaven to me.

I write as often as I like, and when I feel like it. Body surfing, playing or swimming in the ocean brings such joy. Is this success? Absolutely. Meeting with friends for coffee or for lunch, going to the movies are all a part of what I love to do. I work, rest and play as I choose. Is this success? And wait there’s more ….

Persistence won the tug-of-war

The Universe fought hard to give me my heart’s desires, but I fought back because of the conflicting beliefs I held about success and the real joy of Life.

It took me to lose everything to get my thinking straightened out. In doing so, I found my real self and a new life with more leisure and pleasure. And now the more keeps coming. I came to realise that who I am is everything and everything else is like the icing on the cake. When I stand strong in the foundations of who I am, and even if the icing falls off, I know I won’t crumble and fall. And I have faith that the icing can simply be replaced.

Grace and Gratitude

And now, feeling genuine gratitude for my journey to this point, and grateful for who I am and what I do have in my life. I am excited for no other reason than I know there is more of Life to enjoy. I am free of any and all attachment to my worth or success. This means, that instead of fighting, I am surrendered to giving and receiving, with more grace and gratitude.

With appreciation, Marie

Who AM I – I mean really?

When you ask questions like Who am I – I mean really, you best be ready for the answers. And they will come, sometimes in ways we wouldn’t think of.

I remember 25 years ago declaring ‘I’m going to find myself‘. This began a spiritual unfolding and a journey of raising faith and lowering fear. It turned out it wasn’t about seeking or finding, but more about remembering who I AM. The answer to your question Who am I – I mean really takes you way beyond those false beliefs you hold about our self, and allows you to reach inward to remember your unique self, in your own unique way.

Many of us get caught up in the word God. The name, our interpretation and the beliefs we hold about God, keep us at arms length with our real sense of Good, or Godly Self.

In the Beginning

We begin real Life as God, being created in the perfect image of our God I AM, which becomes our Godly Given name. If you like, I AM is our heavenly Father’s name given to us all upon creation of man. I AM identifies my real self in God, without boundaries. I AM makes me whole and a part of God, rather than apart from God.

I AM is NOT another God but another name. I AM is of no religion. I AM belongs to every one. We can even look at it as our Universal, Spiritual connection, and a deep sense of belonging.

The most important thing is to remember that: I AM is the highest non-form of communication available to man-kind, and when used, not abused overcomes and becomes the highest from of communication through mans kindness. So let’s use I AM in the kindest way, to raise our self up instead of putting our self down, shall we?

Hu – the beginning of Hu-manity

In Sanskrit ‘Hu’, that ‘Hu’ means GOD. It is NOT another God but another name for God, as is I AM. Man, then is the manifestation of God and I AM Marie becomes my Hu-man name. Marie identifies who I am on earth among all other men and women.

What happens when we separate Hu and man

The problem comes about when we, man and woman decide to leave Hu out of the equation, and we use or abuse our free will to create a Life, void of Spiritual law and order. We live by man’s law alone, often ending up feeling very lonely, left wanting and waiting for something we just can’t quite figure out, or put our finger on.

Many of us call our selves human, yet we are not exercising the Universal will or law of Hu or God which extends through man’s deepest sense of kindness and love. And we wonder why we are at war with our self and each other. No wonder the world is in a state of disorder and disease.

Remembering I AM from an early age

From early childhood we become influenced by those around us, families, communities, government, schooling, religion, friends, and of course generations of beliefs handed down over and over again. Together, with our personal experiences, comparisons and competition we are led to believe we are more or less than one another.

All too quickly we forget we were all created in the same perfect image of God, and therefore we are one of a kind and equal, with no one above or below. In our forgetfulness we develop a false sense of identity, born of man’s beliefs, and we create a sense of longing, constantly striving to find the perfect life, and to fill the hole we created so we can become whole again.

At an early age we begin to determine who we are based on those influences and what happens to us (or for us). The quality of those influences and beliefs, (true or false) will determine the quality of the life we lead. Many of these beliefs don’t even belong to us but we own them as if they do. Our beliefs are not always a fair representation of who we are. They represent what we do, or what happened to us. We have to de-hypnotise our self in order to separate what happens and what we do from who we are.

I AM are the most powerful words in the dictionary and what ever we attach to them we empower.

Remember, the quality of the words we attach to I AM is reflected in our life.

Often we find our self using I AM to put our self down: I am stupid, I am not good enough, I am ugly, I am too short, too tall, too fat, I am not worthy; I am a failure and the list goes on and on. This is self abuse of the highest kind, as we are using the power of God to put our self down. It’s okay to own how we feel and what we think but we do not state it as if it’s who we are, because it’s not true.

Once you have expressed how you feel, remember to use I AM to reinstate who you are through the eyes of Good. I AM worthy enough, I AM successful enough, I AM intelligent enough, I AM good enough as I am. This is the truth even if you haven’t developed this to the point of being able to resonate with it. Keep affirming, and in time it will drop into your heart and become what you know to be true.

Raise your self talk

I know many people will say that affirmations or declarations don’t work. Well think about it: We have been telling our self what’s wrong with us for a very long time and it worked, right? Check your self talk, and you will find what makes you tick, and what moves you throughout the day. STOP, and begin to declare what’s right with you on a deeper level, and that will surface and become the real you.

I AM is the highest degree

As we go through college, University or work, we add more false identities through the labels and titles we wear, separating us even further from our real identity. Think about it: As we meet a person the first question they ask is What’s your name? I wonder what would happen if we said I AM and left the rest open? Instead we answer I AM Marie. The next question What do you do? will determine how they see you, and they too will create an image or an identity of you based on their beliefs.

What are some of things we identify with through the use of I AM?

A mother, parent, CEO, baker, candle-stick maker, therapist, single, a single Parent (this has become very popular for women in particular), a doctor, a cleaner, an investor, a support worker, nurse, therapist, receptionist, and the list goes on.

How we perform at any of these will determine our success, right? And, of course money, possessions and assets also get wrapped up in how we identify our self, and how others regard us in the world.

I AM and the labels we wear

Remember, all these labels are not who we are. They identify what we do. There is a big difference. Often, the busier we become, and the more we strive to reach a level of man-made success, we lose touch or we forget who we are. We forget that real success works it’s way from the inside out.

When we lose our real self in our doing we stand to lose everything. We lose the best of our self and we divorce our self from our self. Does this mean we can’t strive for success? No, not at all. We just remember to commit to the inner presence of God or Good as the driver of Life, and us as the co-driver. This will save us time and energy in having to use up our own little will and our power. When we are willing to lose our little self to our higher and mightier self, we stand to gain everything.

I AM Remembering, what’s real doesn’t change.

I AM Marie, means I take God into everything ‘I do.’ This way, who I am is still in tact and the doing becomes an extension of who I am. This means my real self, my real identity remains untouched; is forever present and constant. The only thing that might change is how I express that Goodness.

Who am I – Really?

Only that which is not real changes.

Only what we do, or what we call our self will change according to our will and our way. We look into our world and we declare this is reality. But how can it be when every one’s reality is different, and our reality is changing constantly – our body, jobs, money, houses, etc. One day we can have money and another day it’s gone. And in our times of lack, out of the blue, we can be flooded with gifts.

No wonder we fall a part when we see what we think is our reality, fall a part.

Unfortunately, it often takes a break-down, or for us to lose what looks like everything, to remember another way. It’s like we have to wipe the slate clean and begin again. We have to peel off the layers of our false identity to get back to the foundations built upon I AM. As we remarry with our real self, we can be assured that when all else fails, we will not crumble.

Remembering I AM as the foundations for Life

What are the foundations for life? You could very well think of Jesus and the values and virtues by which he lived and died.

Compassion, passion, faith, love, acceptance forgiveness, persistence, gentle yet strong, peace, kindness, appreciation, respect, etc. You can make your own list by asking the question ‘What does humanity really stand for? After all isn’t that what Jesus lived and died for?

I AM works in the here and now

As we venture into the world with the foundations of I AM firmly in place, do you not think we will make for a better mother, CEO, baker, doctor, nurse, cleaner, support worker etc?

Try less, be more, and let more be done

Sometimes we can try too hard to be the best we can be. But in truth if we simply relax, we allow those Good and Godly ripples to flow outwardly and we become a natural, kind, unique inspiration, on a moment by moment and day by day basis, being expressed with or without those titles.

With I AM as the foundations we will rise to greater heights of living, loving and achieving and the ripple of our success will reach far and wide.

Thank you Marie

Are your Beliefs empowering or limiting you?

Are your beliefs empowering or limiting you?

You will find in most of my blogs and conversations that I keep coming back to our beliefs. At the end of each day we live and work through our man-made beliefs. When we understand this, and we identify those limiting beliefs, we choose again.

Follow your dreams

I watched a movie recently called The Chaperone. Set in the 1920’s., Louise is a rebellious 15-year-old schoolgirl who dreams of fame and fortune. Her chance arrived when she was chosen to travel from Kansas to New York to study with a leading dance troupe for the summer. She was accompanied by an elder and watchful chaperone, Norma.

Norma married into an upper class family. In those days, women of her status wore those very uncomfortable corsets, which were pulled tight and clipped up at the back. Each time the corset came off Norma breathed a huge sigh of relief.

The scars left by our beliefs

While Norma was stuck in her ways of living this way of life, Louise looked for more freedom, and was outrageous for that period. Louise challenged Norma when she noticed the deep marks left behind from the tightness of the corset, and from the hooks. An interesting journey began with these two opposites.

Changing those beliefs and stepping out in Faith

When the summer was over, Norma deliberately left the corsets to one side, when packing to return to a life in Kansas, while Louise looks on. Louise went on to become famous, brought about a lot of change and inspired many young women of her day.

Leaving those beliefs behind, for Good

Twenty years later, Norma heard of Louise’s surprise return to Kansas. Norma was even more surprised to find Louise not only financially broke, but looked and sounded like a broken and failed woman. Norma convinced Louise to return to New York to continue to inspire other young people and to seek the change they were looking for. She gave Louise one hundred dollars, and told her to leave the little town in Kansas which she had out-grown and go back to the modern New York because that is where she now belonged. When Norma was leaving the room, Louise asked her if she had ever returned to wearing her corsets again. Norma’s reply was never.

Are your beliefs past their use-by-date?

I love this as I see it as a metaphor for Life. Many of you are still wearing old fashioned and outdated beliefs that are far too tight, leaving no room for something new to come in. Many of these beliefs were passed down for generations, are well past their use by date, and restricting us from living the life we truly want and deserve. Like these woman, there comes a time when enough is enough, and we see we have choices. We can shed those small beliefs, raise our self up, and follow our dreams.

Stepping out of belief into Faith

Only when we give our self permission to seek a life, that better fits, can the transition out of the old begin. As we are willing, we faithfully let go of a lesser, painful conditioned way of life which no longer serves us, and we can breathe easier again allowing our self to be led to into a new and lighter way of life.

Are your beliefs empowering or limiting you.

When the offer to go to Antarctica came up, my reaction was NO because I had no idea how I would be able to afford it. It wasn’t even on my radar. The decision had to be made immediately, because it was a special deal. They were looking for people to fill this 21 day expedition to set off within 6 weeks. Within a few hours, I went from a place of NO to YES. |Within the next few weeks the ‘How to’ then fell into place.

Are your beliefs empowering or limiting you?

Take a risk,

Blessings Marie

Does Forgiveness Stop the Cycle of Guilt

Does forgiveness stop to the cycle of guilt? According to the bible, all of our guilt was washed away by the blood of Christ, over 2000 years ago, when Jesus died on the cross. The question is do we believe that? And do we believe that all of our sins are already forgiven? Isn’t this the freedom we are looking for, today? And, what if it really is already done? Why are we still asking?

Forgiving the unforgivable

Many of us are still learning the art of Forgiveness. It took me a long time to ask and even longer to accept complete forgiveness for all those things I shouldn’t have done, should have done and of course the things I accused myself of doing. At some stage in my life I decided that I wasn’t worthy of complete forgiveness. I felt that some of my wrong-doings were unforgivable. For far too long, I sat in the messy quagmire of guilt, self pity, shame and blame? Urgh!

True or False?

Often there is no crime at at all. It’s just a feeling of guilt based on the judgments we make about our self, or based on actions we took, or didn’t take. I judged myself often and very unfairly. Some of the things I told myself were that I was lazy, I failed, I let myself down, I let others down, I hurt someone, I wasn’t good enough, I must have done something wrong or my life would be different. And the list goes on. These weren’t true but as these stories turned into beliefs they became true for me. And as you know once those judgments or beliefs take root, they have a habit of running or ruining our lives.

Guilty or not guilty, that is the question!

We can hold onto the mistake or crime against our self or another long after the act has been done and dusted. These beliefs insist and persist in reminding us we are not good enough, Godly enough, deserving enough, worthy enough, loving enough (and the list goes on) to be forgiven or to be happy, or, God forbid be loved. As I was unfair to myself I was unfair to others. When I replaced the attitude of guilt with forgiveness, I became kind to myself and to others.

Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude‘ – Martin Luther King

If only we all knew this in the beginning? Without changing the way we think and believe, we will continue to screw up, continue to crucify our selves and others through our guilty thoughts and feelings, and the repetition of guilty acts. As we hang on, and on and on, to the shame, blame guilt and unforgivable feelings we create a dam around our heart and separate our self from the loving natural healing nature of Faith. Developing forgiveness as a constant attitude, along with Faith right from the beginning must surely prevent many of the wrong-doings we impose upon our self and each other.

Escaping the prison of your mind-set

A person goes to prison for a crime they committed, and then he or she is set free again when they have done their time. However, unless they have been supported to resolve and dissolve the guilt, they will remain in the prison of their guilty and shameful mind, until ….

This unhealthy mind-set sends us going around in circles, running the same pattern and repeating the same guilt driven crimes and addictive behaviours, over and over again. Without the intervention of forgiveness, we continue to keep guilt alive and us dying.

As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness behind, I’d still be in prison’ – Nelson Mandela

Unforgiveness and disease

Holding tightly to those unhealthy, guilty, not good enough, unforgivable beliefs creates extensive tension, in our mind body system? Think about the illnesses and diseases which stem from all that stress? How does depression and anxiety and other fear driven illnesses fit in to this? So, whether the crime is against our self or another, or whether the guilt is real or stems from a false belief, they need our loving attention in order to heal.

Shame hardens the heart

There is nothing that can not be forgiven? It’s as simple as being open to receiving complete forgiveness to complete the letting go process and to regain wholeness. This means letting go of everything, real or perceived for they are equally powerful in our minds. We can’t keep sweeping things under the mat. The longer we hold onto those beliefs, and the more we add to the pile, the thicker and harder that dam around our heart becomes.

As you believe, so it is

Many people, will think, as I did that they have to do something to deserve God’s love. And, in my mind God was always so high and mighty that no matter how hard I tried to appease and please God, I never felt Good or Godly enough. As I believed, so it was. In my mind, I could just not measure up, and God’s love was always out of my reach. This is the real burden we carry, until we are ready to cast it off, for good.

What do you believe about God?

Over time, we will suffer the consequences of those unhealthy blockages somewhere in our mind body system, and in our life. This is not God’s doing. Neither does the Universe send it to test us. It is not because God turned away ashamed of you. You were too ashamed to look in the mirror and face your true self. God doesn’t judge us or make us feel guilty, we do that perfectly well our self. God is real love, and is present always in all ways. In truth, our guilt keeps us at arms length with the love of God. I have no doubt in my mind and heart today, that the love of God is always present within, even though we may not feel or be aware of that Presence.

Healing the hurts

I discovered only recently that I was harbouring blame and unforgiveness toward some people from an event nearly 20 years ago. Not only did I need to forgive those people, I also had to accept forgiveness for myself for hanging onto that poison for so long. It certainly wasn’t harming them, but the beliefs I held onto all that time were harming me. .

“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different. It’s letting go of how you wanted life to be and accepting the past for what it was’ – Oprah Winfrey

How true this was for me! I held on to the idea that I had failed, because my life didn’t look as I wanted it to look. How many times I looked back through the eyes of guilt and wished it could have been different?

So what does it take to break that cycle of guilt?

What does it take to cast aside that burden? We can’t run away from it because the problem is within us; where ever we go, there we are. When enough is enough, we stop and turn within.

Know that there is no right or wrong way to raise your attitude from guilt to forgiveness.

You can begin by simply finding a quiet spot and make the call ‘Ask‘, who ever, or what-ever, represents your greatest inner-love and protection. You can say something like this: I am right now ready and willing to surrender all this guilt and shame and shift my attitude into a place of absolute forgiveness. Thank you for showing me the way”. Now, open your mind and heart and you will be guided to the right group, person, book, course or therapist. Or, you may not have to go anywhere, for your personal faith within may well be the miracle that will handle the details.

Giving Thanks through prayer

My understanding is that prayer is not so much about asking or pleading; it’s about giving thanks for what you are seeking and believing that which you need, has been given. It is sometimes more difficult to ask, and accept forgiveness from within our self than it is from another. You surrender your fears and guilt, in exchange for complete forgiveness. As you confront God, which is the heart and soul of your Self, and offer up these ‘hurts’ the process of softening that dam begins. As we remember to say thank you, in faith, it is done.

Love and forgiveness softens the heart

As the flood gates open, you may find an instant outpouring, or you might find the flow trickles back into our Being. You may find a sense of relief, or peace overcome you, and your heart softens. Now, your job is to simply promise to keep those heavenly gates open with a will never to let them close again, and you will find the real love of God present, here, there and where forever you are – always in all ways.

Seeing God in a new Light

Now, doesn’t it make more sense that it’s our interpretation of God, and the imperfections we see within our self, and others, that keep guilt alive and us dying to be free? Our false ideas of God keeps us from feeling Good about our self and from owning the abundant Life that is rightfully ours.

Transforming Imperfection into I’m Perfection

God doesn’t judge. God is unconditional, therefore he sees beyond the imperfections of the flesh. We were created as His sons and daughters in the pure and perfect image of Him Self, in the name I AM which transforms Imperfection into I’m Perfection.

Restoring Humanity through the art of Forgiveness

Our role as Human Beings is to see our self and others through the eyes of God, and to see only that which God sees, which is all Good. Can you imagine how relationships present, past, and future can be so different and empowered through the simple and constant attitude of forgiveness? As we shift into the higher energy of forgiveness, we become kinder to our self and others. Now, isn’t this the simplest way of restoring and maintaining humanity?

Are you ready? – I AM

Isn’t it time to let go, and let forgiveness and real love overcome and become your constant attitude? Is this is not the miracle we are looking for? Are you finally ready to accept this gift of forgiveness, and the guilt free Life that was offered to us all, over 2000 years ago?

Does forgiveness stop the cycle of guilt? Forgiveness sets us free

Thank you I AM all forgiving and forgiving all


Are Faith & Belief the same?

Are Faith and Belief the same? The short answer is NO.

‘Faith is active and belief is passive’

Many years ago I was away from home and found my self in a difficult financial situation. To make the stress worse, I found a large lump in my breast.

As much as I disliked the idea of going to the doctors I couldn’t come up with an other answer. After an ultra sound the doctors decided to do a simple pin prick to what they said was cyst. it was an easy and painless process they said, and from my prior experience I was confident in what they said. However, as the needle went penetrated the breast I screamed out in horrendous pain. They completed the procedure but it was another couple of days before I could touch my breast again, only to find the lump hadn’t changed. My attitude slumped and although I felt low I used the I AM affirmations to see me through the mental and emotional pain.


Within a couple of days my spirits rose and I was able to take the next step which led me to making an appointment with the specialist/surgeon. Each day I continued to pray and to use the I AM Affirmations to keep my self-talk and my spirits up. It was also a reminder that I wasn’t alone, and that I was being taken care of, in all ways. I had faith that the lump would be gone by the time my appointment day arrived. Each morning I checked and I was surprised to find the lump still there and not even changed.

The lump was still there on my way out of the house on the morning of my appointment. As I was leaving, I noticed an open newspaper with a message that lit up like a neon sign:

Faith and Belief are different. Faith is active and belief is passive’

I didn’t get this logically, but I knew that somehow this message had registered in my heart. Off I went to the specialist still scratching my head. Less than an hour later the doctor couldn’t find any sign of a lump. At first I thought he must be mad, how could he miss it? When I checked it myself, he was right there was nothing to be felt or found. Following the doctor’s suggestion, I made another appointment for an ultra sound. I wasn’t sure if I really needed it or not but some how I knew the answer would come. The day before the appointment I rang still not sure if I would cancel or confirm the appointment. When the receptionist answered my call I mentioned my name and that I was inquiring about my appointment due tomorrow. She informed me I had missed my appointment as it was yesterday!

This time, I answered the call to ‘go home’ and as soon as I said yes, the way was shown and the money I needed showed up.

So I look at it this way. Our beliefs are man-made, formed from the outside-in. Some are learned, many are created from experiences through out life and many more passed on through multiple generations. Although they may be true for the person holding them, they are not necessarily true for those who inherit them. In time those beliefs may change according to our personal will and the will of the collective. People can believe in us and we can believe in our self, but these beliefs are still limited and may never lead to action. It takes Faith to see if what we believe in works, right? Regardless of the level of our self-belief we still need to take a step or sometimes a leap of Faith.

I love this quote which someone shared a long time ago.

Fear knocked on the door and when faith answered there was no one there’

Faith is our natural Higher Self Belief

Many people think Faith is tied to a religion (and it can be) however it is not exclusive, it is inclusive. It is Universal, and a product of Spirituality. Yet it is a personal resource available for everyone seeking to find something more within themselves, and to do something beyond their current circumstances. It allows us to shift beyond the attachments to how others see us and beyond the beliefs others have about us.

Shifting gears from Belief to Faith

Sometimes we need faith to get out of our comfort zone, and at times to let go of the control we think we have on our life (and on the lives of others). Unlike belief, Faith works from the inside out, It is always here, consistent, never changing and actively moving, directing us and protecting us, in a unique way for each and every one of us. It is our natural real higher sense of Self and Self-Belief. Belief can get us to the point of change, of moving forward, or ready to deliver those ideas into the world. This is often where we get stuck. How many great ideas are there still locked away in people’s minds? How many dreams and desires are still locked away in the hearts of people because of the fear of taking that next step?

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If belief is our word, then faith is our works

It took me a long time to realise that Faith isn’t the absence of fear. It’s about feeling the fear and doing it any way. If belief is our word then faith is our works. As we call upon Faith we take that step or take that action which overcomes and dissolves the fear.

Thank you I AM Faith


My walk with Jesus

My walk with Jesus. I feel as if I have walked from Bethlehem to Jerusalem and back again trying to understand Jesus’ purpose in my life. As I strove to be as Godly as He, I was often left feeling afraid, exhausted and like a failure. I even tried to get rid on him a number of times, thinking that he was a crutch and I relied on him far too much.

Real Love doesn’t die

Now, accepting I walk a very crooked line without him, I depend on Him being my guiding hand and light, keeping me on the straight and narrow. Today, I feel his spirit alive in me as my invisible guide and mentor, encouraging, protecting, and sometimes gently chastising me. He is a miracle worker in so many ways. I’m living proof of that!

Try less, be more and let more be done

When I fully accepted my short-comings in this physical body and the world I saw, without judgement, I could finally relax, and see more of the Good and the God in myself, others and in Life. I know now, nothing I do, try or strive for can make me more like Jesus. It’s only in trying less and being more that I am more like Him, allowing the words and works of Good to continue to be done in the simplest, natural and perfect way.

After 25 years, I can now embrace that which I tried so hard to deny, to understand and that which I was so scared of, as Being a true reflection of my Good and Sacred Self. What Freedom!


Inspired painting by Marie Brunger 2000

An Inspired Poem by Marie Brunger


I was Scared
I felt inadequately prepared
And I despaired
At the thought of walking in Jesus’ shoes
Until I heard the news
“We are not asking you
To walk in HIS’ shoes
Only to choose
To let the holy son come
To walk within your shoes with you
Together as one”
Suddenly it made sense
The relief was immense
No longer afraid
The decision was made
To simply agree
To let it be
And immediately
I let go
I felt the flow
Of the Christ energy
Move through me
And I knew it was done
Two wills became one
A new life begun
Not as me, or he, or we, but

What does it mean to ‘Let Go’?

We hear so much about letting go but what does it mean to let go? How do we let go and what are we letting go of? Mmmm what a great question. How do you let go and let God? How do you let go of the old way of thinking and let the new way to come? How do we let go and move on? How do we let go of relationships? And the list goes on!

What to let go of and what to hold on to!

We do a lot of ‘holding on’ and a lot of ‘letting go’ in our lives, don’t we? I have asked the question ‘how’ many times. When you think about the question, doesn’t it imply that we have to do something to let go? This in its self doesn’t make sense, does it? We know that letting go is about not doing, isn’t it?

From Fear and terror …..
Holding onto Faith and Letting go of the fear, allowed me to experience the Freedom of free falling … what a gift.

What I now know is that ‘letting go’ means we have to sit in discomfort (fear) of not knowing until the courage and faith turns up.

Look for the signs

I was going through a trying time and just wanted some sort of guidance when something wonderful happened. Doesn’t it always? A beautiful poem found its way into my hands and my heart. I read it a number of times. I loved it even though I didn’t really understand it, not on a logical level anyway. However there was a feeling that something was happening inside. Over the next few days I found myself repeating “She just let go” over and over again. Sometimes this was replaced with ‘I just let go’

The next day I went to the New Life Church and received a powerful message from the pastor about Be Still and Know I am God. Just Be was the ultimate message.

Try less, do less and let more be done

The following day, I awoke to some negative thoughts and doubts about the decisions I had recently made. I questioned what I was doing with my life. I knew what I wanted. I thought I was following my path and had done some good work, but it just didn’t seem to be taking shape. All I could see was what was wrong in my life and what could go wrong. When I couldn’t see a clear path forward to meet with my new life, I began to think about going back and doing what I thought I had left behind. The thought of that made me feel sick. What the? In that moment, it happened! I didn’t do anything. As I remained still and stayed with those feelings something quickly changed.

Fear of the unknown

I could see clearly the reason for the delay in the unfolding of my new life was because I hadn’t closed the back door on the old way of life and the old way of doing things. I wasn’t fully committed to moving forward into a new and very much unknown world. It was as if those old thoughts, beliefs and patterns that were holding onto me suddenly let go, freeing me to think again. Immediately a new idea came to mind. I realised I had already done the preparation for my new life but had no idea, until now how to apply it.

Stop trying to work out the ‘How To’

Although the message The Spirit within goes before me to prepare the way, was show to me, I was still straining to see what laid ahead. As soon as I stopped trying to work out the ‘How to’, the solution came into the empty space and I was filled with a new sense of hope, courage, confidence and faith. The answer was always here but I couldn’t see what was right under my nose because of my trying and my old way of thinking and be-having.

Be willing to remain in the discomfort

Getting uncomfortable is the first stage of letting go. That very, uncomfortable awakening early that morning turned out to be the ‘letting go’. It was followed by the arousal of faith and the conviction I needed to allow the old way to dissolve, and allow my purpose to become fully integrated as the only way.

Again, I realised although I felt stuck I was never, ever stuck. I was always in transition, simply in a state of letting go and letting God take the reins again.

Remember, as you let go, here I AM

Love and many blessings Marie

This is the poem by Ernest Holmes:

What is sin? What does it mean for a non Christian?

Yes I agree, sin is a word I too had trouble with, so thank you for bringing it up and for your willingness to confront it. It’s a hard word (as in that it isn’t soft) to swallow. Many people I know continue to turn their backs on it just because of their interpretation of sin. Unfortunately turning our back is not the answer, confronting it is. Let’s take a look at What is sin? What does it mean for a non Christian?

As they say what you resist persists. What you focus on grows. So there is no point in constantly thinking about what we did wrong and berating our self, is there? All we need to do is to acknowledge it and turn our attention and our intention to Divine Love and forgiveness. The Divine now overcomes the sin allowing us to continue to grow in God’s Love.

We can look at sin in many ways.

Although sin can be a fill-blown act of crime, remember no crime is ever too big to be forgiven. Remember also, that many or, maybe even most of our little or big crimes are against ourselves so be sure not to leave yourself out of the equation when you look for forgiveness. Sin can constitute unkind acts or unkind words we put upon our self or others. It can represent unkind or poisonous thoughts, and even if they are not expressed they still poison the mind.

Poisonous emotions

Sin can be an unhealthy attitude, which is driven by those unresolved emotions of hatred, anger, regret, jealousy, envy unforgiveness, shame, blame and self pity. These too are poisonous. Remember, you are not alone with all this stuff. Most of us are carrying this baggage and some laden for a life-time. This isn’t about judging our self, far from it. It’s about finding peace with it and releasing it. If we turn our back, it becomes like a heavy burden which can weigh us down and lead to disease of the mind body system.

Shedding the heavy coat

Even though you might feel justified for how you feel, I suggest you ask your self this: ‘As justified as I may be, is hanging onto these ‘hurts’ really doing me any good’? The answer is a resounding NO.

I was surprised when it was brought to my attention recently that I still harbored grudges against some people from nearly a quarter century ago. Not only did I need to forgive those people, I also had to forgive myself for hanging onto that poison for so long. It certainly wasn’t harming them, but it was harming me.

Hurt People hurt people, Loving people love people

I say ‘hurts’ because, at the end of the day only hurt people, hurt people. This means if we heal the hurt and return to love, we can’t repeat the sin because Loving people love people, right?

Remember, our thoughts will become words, either in our head or out-spoken, and our words become works. Doesn’t it make sense to confront those put-downs, which obviously don’t work for you so they can be resolved and dissolved through the love of God?

What do you identify your self with?

Although I agree, we have to acknowledge our wrong-doings we must remember they are doings or behaviors and they can be undone. Our biggest problems come, when we identify our self with those wrong doings. We live with the shame and blame and call our self a sinner, a failure, or other names to describe what we do as if it is who we are.

‘I AM’ the highest non-form of communication available to man-kind and when remembered overcomes and becomes the highest form of communication through mans kindness.

I AM are the most powerful words in the dictionary. They are the words and works of God and what ever we attach to them we empower. I AM is how we identify our self in God. They are intended to raise our self up, but often we use them to put our self down.

Making statements like I am a sinner, I am unworthy and all those other things we attach to I AM only stands to put us down and separate us from God. It’s self- abuse. It is blasphemous and takes His name in vain. I AM declares who we are, not what we do. Sin is something we do, It is a wrong doing and a long way from who we are.

I AM the Healthy Way

I AM love I AM great, I AM joy, I AM forgiveness etc. aligns us with God. Not only are we honouring, praising and raising our self up in His name, we are also displaying honour and praise and raising Him up within us. It is a two way street. And as we do unto our self we do unto others. As we feel loved so we are loving.

So, if you really want to praise God, look in the mirror (right into your eyes) and begin to tell you self all the things you would like to hear from someone else and of course from God. You can begin with your Name: Marie, You are completely loved and accepted, You are well provided for, You are a joy to the world. You are; forgiven; you are a success. Now, you can turn it around, and do something very few people can do. I AM Love, I AM forgiveness, I AM a Joy to the world. This surely is praising and glorifying God in the most practical and powerful way.

I AM Praising who I AM

Notice these are all the things God is made up of, and gives freely to the world through each and every one of us. Some would say we are being vain, but in truth we are acknowledging and reminding our self of all that He is and all that we are in Him. We are declaring only that which is Good and what God represents in us. That’s freedom.

Thank you I AM

So now, as you put that old way of thinking to rest, you find room for new healthy, loving and joyful thoughts, words and actions that work for you, right? you are ready to be forgiven or to forgive others, the undoing gets done and you can safely look in the mirror and announce Thank you I AM Absolute Forgiveness

Now, I don’t know about yours, but my heart has certainly softened. I hope this has brought some clarity to the questions of What is Sin? Most What does it mean to a non Christian?

Praising you,


The Keys to my Personal Healing

The Keys to my personal personal healing are quite extensive but many very simple.

Without knowing why, I made a commitment to heal my life, (not the illness) and to help others, to help themselves, to do the same. Again, notice I say I would help others to help themselves. Sharing my story of faith remains a part of my growth and a valuable way I can support others.

I didn’t waste any time exploring the illness

My mission became one of raising Faith and lowering fear

I was willing to do what ever it took. Exploring Spirituality was the last thing I had in mind, and the last path I wanted to venture down.

My willingness attracted the support I needed: the right people, resources, tools, books and messages.

There were many other things I needed to act upon, which caused a lot of painful resistance but my commitment and my persistence kept winning the tug-of-war.

I had to shift my perception. I adopted the attitude: This happened for me not to me. This illness was my wake up call to show me that chronic fear was present, and driving my life long before the chronic fatigue and pain showed up.

I soon learned that it was not the illness I needed to address, but the beliefs which were at the root driving it. This saved me the time and energy exploring what was present, and I focused on finding the missing piece to wellness.

My journey was a constant battle of letting go, surrendering all of my old beliefs, and being open to remembering the truth of who I was, before I adopted those beliefs

Who would have thought that stepping off a cliff would allow me to soar higher?

It’s only in looking back, that I can see that my illness was a part of the greater picture in my request and quest to find myself. It’s like I had to lose who I thought I was, and all the limitations I put upon myself in order to find who I really am and the full potential that comes naturally with it.

Much later I discovered that we don’t have to get sick to know true well-being and wellness. All we have to do is to be our self right from the beginning, and let that be enough. Unfortunately many people have to go through some sort of crisis to wake up to this simple truth.

I learned that as I raised my faith, I healed and I became a natural conduit for others to find themselves, or to heal them selves.

I accepted that this passage of healing is a two-way street. As I give I receive.

I finally accepted that simple acts of kindness, (being my self) does actually make a significant difference in the lives of others: a smile, a genuine compliment or lending a hand. The only degree required here is a degree of faith in who I am is enough. It took many experiences to finally accept that being truly present is the most precious gift we can offer

Remember, I was raising faith and lowering fear, and all the while I remembered this I knew I had choices. I could give into fear or I could give into faith. And as fear was my adopted program it would have been easier to give in to that. But somehow Faith was pushing those layers of fearful beliefs up and out. Instead of holding onto those beliefs, all I had to do was to hold onto faith, as we went through a very uncomfortable ‘letting go’ process.

Over time, I remembered to check to see if the decisions I was making were coming from a place of fear, or faith. Being honest about this gave me more choices. Even if I was unable to get off the path of fear, I knew somewhere deep within that this path would come to another set of cross-roads and I could choose again.

I began to honour my feelings – all of them – and in time I could do this without judgement. This was a huge stepping stone for me. I began to do what I thought was impossible; I started to embrace myself and my own hurts. Self compassion replaced self pity. As I let go of playing the role of a victim, I was reintroduced to the inner victor.

And even today, when circumstances are less than satisfactory, I know that the presenting problem is not really the problem. I ask: What’s the truth in this? Show me the truth? What would love do now? Having asked the question, I let it go and I am willing to be shown the answer. And always the answer comes; not always straight away and not always without an inner fight. But, always faith wins and always the answer comes.

Using the power of prayer, forgiveness, gratitude and praise and discovering the importance of giving thanks for what I do have was a blessing.

I found the power in casting the problem upon the Christ within and going free. This means you have to let go of the problem or the perceived problem. The solution comes back in the form of an insight or as a direct healing.

I finally gave up making my self wrong, and thinking there was something wrong with me. Instead I began to accept that I am simply different, and that’s okay. I never once took the wrong path, because in end although I changed direction many times, I found my way home to wellness.

Dare to be Different

It’s funny, because I could say I learned a lot about my self. But in truth I feel as if I have simply gone through the process of unlearning and remembering what was always here, right under my nose, right inside … my Faithful Self

And here I am, all these years later finally accepting that real healing comes from finding myself, and from being myself, and the realisation that who I am is good enough and Godly enough

Thank you Marie